i know some one who is beautiful .but so over weight, and she just keeps adding pounds,
2006-10-16 18:16:36 · 11 answers · asked by marie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't you think she knows that she's overweight? If you tell her, do you think she'll be suprised? Do you think that your comments will help the situation or damage her self esteem more so that she eats more?
What exactly is your goal here, I guess is what I'm asking.
How about instead of telling her she has a weight problem, you make sure to include healthy choices in your outings. Encourage her to go walking with you. Eat at places that are healthier. Buddy up with her instead of just pointing out her problem.
2006-10-16 18:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't. They are probably more aware of their weight gain than you are. My one suggestion: tell her you have noticed some changes in her appearance and ask if she has seen a doctor. She may have PCOS, be hypothyroid, or have a metobolic disorder. Also reassure her that she is beautiful and wonderful just the way she is because gaining weight is often an unconscious attempt at protecting yourself. Another idea: involve him or her in activities that revolve around being active - like a hike instead of the movies.
2006-10-17 01:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by NanD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her about her weight, talk to her about her health. Whether or not she plans to have a family in the future. If you have any extra weight at all, use yourself to broach the subject. Don't be too obvious or over the top - just be honest. Talk about worrying about staying fit in old age, or so you can play with your kids, self-image, confidence, etc. Good luck. Often sitting down and reminising over old photos can really smack you in the face with weight gain. Perhaps that's a subtler way without saying anything at all.
2006-10-17 01:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that person have to see them self as over weight until then they will keep adding the pounds. but if you say something about it you will hurt there feelings
2006-10-17 01:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. I am sure the person is aware that they are overweight...Not to mention, you have no idea if the person is overweight due to things beyond their control. Maybe they have a medical condition.. or takes meds that cause weight gain.
I wouldn't mention it at all.
You could tell the person that you are thinking about starting an exercise plan and just ask if she would want to do it with you.See what her reaction is.
2006-10-17 01:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
beauty is not on the eye of the beholder.
If you have a friend and you've noticed lately that she'he's gaining weight. tell'em. Truth will set situation free. You tell'em before anybody elses would you know im sayin. it'll be aight.
2006-10-17 01:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Melchar F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit them down and tell them that you are concerned about their weight and want to help them lose weight
2006-10-17 01:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worrie about it she probally knows that she is but she just might b happ with herself and if she beautiful then whats the deal
2006-10-17 01:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only do it if she ask you.That would even hurt her the most.
2006-10-17 01:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? - she knows-- and doesn't need anyone to tell her.
2006-10-17 07:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋