I JUST RECENTLY MOVED FROM TEXAS TO KENTUCKY. I CAME OUT TO A CO WORKER. SHE SAID SHE WAS FINE WITH IT. BUT I HAVE NOT FROM HER SINCE. SOULD I CONTACT HER?
2006-10-16 18:01:49 · 10 answers · asked by smmere2000 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes but she may have a problem but then again, she could have just forgotten, or lost ur number.
2006-10-16 18:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much, she could just be digesting the information, so to speak. Or maybe she feels a little awkward and needs some time. Or maybe she's just busy or not feeling well - it's allergy season down there, after all.
I'm from Kentucky myself, and as long as you're in a city then most people are fine - there are several gay bars in downtown Louisville. I lived in Old Louisville on a street with two gay couples and one lesbian couple and they never had any problems down there.
2006-10-17 13:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hummm... Why would you do something like that? Is your sexual orientation relevant to your job?
I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think that in most cases, your sexual orientation has aboslutely no place being discussed at work.
Think about how odd it would be if a co-worker came up to you and said, "Listen, I want you to know that I'm straight."
I think that it's a lot smarter to leave all that stuff out of the office. You never know whether an employer or a particular office culture is sympathetic or hostile, and I don't think it's worth the risk. Especially in a situation like you describe - - where you "just recently moved," so you're in a new workplace environment and you don't know.
Personally, I would never, ever "come out" to people at work in the sense that most people define that act. I've been with my partner for going on 13 years, and there has never been a situation where I've had to say something like that to a co-worker OUT OF CONTEXT. What I mean by that emphasis is that over time, a number of co-workers have become friends, and at that point if there was some kind of outside-of-work social event, I'd attend with my partner, and just introduce him as "Alain," without making an issue out of it by some kind of coded preface like, "This is my PARTNER, Alain." By just leaving out the "in your face" stuff, the whole thing becomes a non-issue, just like it should be. It's just me, but I find that being subtle about this stuff and sort of "working within the system to destroy it" has gone a lot farther than radical rainbow-flag waving. By people seeing that we're pretty much just like them, they end up coming to the conclusion that they are pretty much just like us... We work hard, we pay our taxes, we mow our lawns... just like they do. I think this approach makes a lot more inroads than the available alternatives... But again, that just me.
So, about this co-worker you decided to come out to... You may very well have fried her egg with what you did, so unless you have some valid working matters where you have to deal with her, I'd leave it alone and not contact her. For all you know she has strong feelings against people like us. You've got to be sensitive to where you are as well... It's not like your offices are in San Francisco, New York, or L.A. Like it or not, there are different attitudes about "alternative lifestyles" in different places, and a conversation like the one you had might have a lot less impact in one of those major cities. I wish that weren't the case, but it is how it is.
In the future, I'd avoid that topic at work. A "don't ask-don't tell" policy is better - - until the co-worker and you have more of a friendship built. And even then, I don't think it is normally something that has to be overtly stated.
Good luck!!!
mz
2006-10-17 01:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by mz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I live in Kentucky and gays are really not accepted much here so your best bet would be to keep your sexual preference to yourself or you might end up on the news tonight.
2006-10-17 12:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry give her a call. Women are cool with the gay thing!
2006-10-17 01:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone.
2006-10-17 01:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should.
2006-10-17 01:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by almost_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone
2006-10-17 02:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by lala 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
was that a typo?
2006-10-17 01:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Olga's college-educated bf 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure, I think you should.
2006-10-17 01:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋