Why do teenagers wanna fall in love so early?

Question

What is confusing is that, teenagers do it for fun. Is it for fun only? I don't think you teenagers really understand the meaning of love? Why not concentrate on education first? Become something in life, finish your high school or whatever and then fall in love with a guy who can take care of you and support.

If I'm wrong about all I said above, then why does the relation break off if you feel that, as a teenager, you've met some guy who's the ONE?

Answer 1

the media is making them think its right.

Answer 2

Well, you can't tell them what's right and what's wrong. Some teenagers develop more of a mature sense of living, even more mature than most adults. Teenagers falling inlove is a common thing, and is just a phase.

Some teenagers don't know better, that's why they fall inlove, or look for "the one", or dream of marrying and having kids already, or maybe it's because they feel that's the right thing to do. Some teenagers DO know better and realize wether or not they should be in any relationships of sorts.

The thing is, you can't really talk about this topic without realizing that people are different, even teenagers. Some are more sensible than their peers, some are more sensible than adults. So before you make assumptions, you should take into consideration that some know better, and some don't, which is basically the furthest answer you can get here unless you want to convince yourself that the "right" answer is the one that supports your ideas.

If you want to get any further, I'd recommend opening your mind and personally interview and take tally of different teenagers of different places, different backgrounds, belifs, and lifestyles, different morals, and different senses of maturity.

Answer 3

All work and no play makes John a dull boy....or something like that. Yes a very high percentage of high school relationships are never serious but that small percentage that is truly serious end up happier. Finishing education.....education is boring as hell lol and this is from a High school student. Teenagers are sometimes or actually often fooled into thinking they are in love and end up heart broken. I agree that the majority of teenagers should focus on there studies but some just can't help it........I don't know.......this is just my opinion.....well more like my constant ramblings.....

Answer 4

its a normal human reaction to have a fetish fer a person.
dont you find it sweet as teenagers fall in love with each other?
its just puppy love.
but the memories being together would last a lifetime.
plus,being together is equivalent to understanding the other party better.
hence,the teenager would actually learn and grow up a lot after each relationship.
no matter wad mistakes or wrong doings they have done, its an experience fer them which adults should understand and encourage.
cos they would be able to learn and grow.
not forgetting that the sweet memories would really last a lifetime.
teenagers wouldnt bother if they're gonna marry each other.
puppy love is all about understanding the person and having the person by their side with them.
they wouldnt care much.
but just love the company of each other and love them.
=) open up..
and they break up is cos aft they've understood each other too much.
they're nothing more to the relationship anymore.
teenagers are fickle minded.
maybe cos of their age.
nevertheless.its the enjoyment of the process...
even adults break up too.
married couples get divorced too.
its jus a relationship. no harm man!

Answer 5

No man, they can't help it. It's the natural order of things for first loves to be 'puppy love" or trials for the real thing. They don't do that by design.

Years ago, before the days of dating, marriage either was arranged or took place soon after the meeting; there was no time for getting to know one another.

Now, teens are thrust into an artificial environment where the hormones are raging, and they have many choices for social experimentation.
Most teen girls will fall in "love" several times before graduating from HS. They will change as the level of hormones in their system changes.

Answer 6

Only 18 here so i think i'm qualified to answer this. Teens feel that they need to fall in love because of
1) A need to belong to someone/thing
2) A desire to feel 'grown up'
3. All the stars do it.
4) Sometimes you actually fall in love
5) With the downward spiral of marriage stability in the world, teens feel the need to provide the happiness they don't see at home anymore.
6) Your hormones are really telling you to find someone fast. Most don't have the drive to stay single for long.
7) Society looks at men without a girl as 'wimps', some going as far as to question their sexuality. Women are called frigid, boring and also have their sexuality questioned.


I hope this was helpful to you.

Answer 7

Teens want to experiance new things. think about it. your entire life you are feed movies from disney that are about falling in love. sleeping beauty, snow white, lady and the tramp. when you become a teenager, you want to know what love is all about. Also you don't have old experiances to tell you when a guy is good or bad. of course you are going to think your first love is the one, because you have never had your heart broken before, so you don't know what to look out for. I have a younger sister and i hate the guy she is dating. she knows i don't like him, but i have the experiances of my own and my friends to tell me she is dating the wrong kind of guy. she is 16 and has no intention of listening to me because at 16 YOU THINK YOU KNOW EVERYTHING. Teens are pationate about what they think, they have all those hormones running thru them.
I am 24 years old and proud to say that i meet my boyfriend when i was 17. So how did i know he is the one for me? Because he has always treated my with respect and always considered my feelings first. If you can't find a guy like that then KEEP LOOKING. When a guy can't meet up to those 2 standards, that is when the idea of "the one" goes right out the window.
And i do have to say that i have made something out of my life. i finnished H.S. and college, we have a home, and i even volunteer on sundays.

Answer 8

I know what you mean but not all teenagers want to fall in love. When I was a freshman or sophomore, I cant quit remember, I fell in love with my boyfriend and dated him for three years. Sometime it just happens.
And for the teen's that look for love, are clueless and dont know how much work and sometimes pain can go into love. They do it for attention.

Don't judge all teenagers.

Answer 9

Yes I agree. But there is a race to find someone. I never found anyone, so maybe there's wisdom in looking early. After having my heart broken so many times, I've lost interest and don't think about it too much, or I'll just get sad and lonely.

Answer 10

well, i'm 21, not really a teenager but still feel like one, and i'd have to say that we 'fall in love' because we all have the urge to find a mate, its not just teenagers, its all ages, everybody wants to find somebody to love that loves them back and build a life with, and i guess we start thinking about marriage with everybody we get into a relationship with, its only natural, why would you waste your time dating somebody that you weren't planning on having something with? kinda confusing

Answer 11

Romance is publicized constantly. Look at all of the ads for dating -- what do they say -- all these people were lonely before they met the love of their life.

Being single is frowned upon as though there is something wrong with you if you are not "attached".

Teens are going through their invincible stage at some point -- the world is their oyster -- especially when they do not have to pay the bills and worry about the rest of it. Romeo and Juliet were young . . .