The mother of my daughter's new friend is annoying the hell out of me. She is a very laid back woman, who had her daughter when she was a teen, which makes her young. She dresses like a teen and has been encouraging my daughter to dress provocatively. I approached this woman and told her she has no right to give my daughter revealing clothes or talk her into look like a slut, but she told me that she never did such a thing and that I need to calm down. What can I do?
2006-10-16 17:25:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't allow your child to spend time at the friend's house- only have the girl over to yours where you can monitor things. If clothes are left at your place, throw them away. No need to confront the mother- you're only responsible for your kid, and making sure your kid avoids her influence.
2006-10-16 17:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are You Rich? Do You Look Down On This Woman For Having Children Younger?? Are You Over Analyzing This?? I Think You Need To Back Up... Remember Your Daughter Will End Up Resenting You For Doing Such Things...
Good Luck
2006-10-17 00:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to qualify this answer by first stating I don't have kids. However, if I did (easier said than done) I would let my daughter know she is not dressing like Paris Hilton anymore. And just because her friends do it does not make it alright. You have the bank account, so you should have control over most of what your daughter wears. Also, I would sit her down, and express how you don't like the way she talks. I would try to make the conversation more of discussion than an actual mandate and listen to her side of the story. Unfortunately, kids rebel as they get older so it may be an up hill struggle. Hope any of this helps. Good luck.
2006-10-17 00:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By provocative, I'm wondering what you mean, because fashion for young girls these days is quite risque (by some adult standards), whether you're shopping at Target, Gap Kids or Limited Too. Also, please don't begrudge this young mother for dressing young. My wardrobe is made up entirely of clothing from Forever 21, Pac Sun, Hollister, Billabong, Roxy etc, and I'll have a little complex about it when I meet up with my friends and they're wearing conservative outfits that look crisp and put-together rather than sporty-casual. But it's my own personal style and choice. I'd hate to think my friends are snickering behind my back or talking trash about my choices in fashion.
2006-10-17 00:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by olliebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman told you that she didn't give your daughter clothes or encourage your daughter to change her style.
You should have apologized for the misunderstanding and also for your foul language and attitude.
Have another talk with your daughter. Make sure she understands that you need to know who is telling the truth; because if the mom is lying, then obviously you can't trust her enough to allow your daughter to visit her friend unaccompanied by you.
that should get your daughter to come clean.
2006-10-17 00:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill out. Your daughter has probably been sneaking into those clothes for ages. You should calm down. Your daughter will figure out on her own who she is and what she wants to be. Didn't you? If you make her decisions for her and decide how she looks and where she goes and what she does she will never learn to be responsible for herself. It is ok to be a concerned parent, but be concerned about important things not mini skirts and knee boots or whatever "look" you diapprove of. All of us young mothers understand this cause we became young mothers due to our rebellion against overbearing parents. Let her live so she doesn't feel like she has to spite you.
2006-10-17 00:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by L.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Dress's like a teen"....firstly being a mum does not mean you have to don a linen blouse buttoned to the neck, and while she may appear laid back she probably just has different rules than you do. Alot of teenage girls have a stash of clothes that they smuggle in and out, and your daughter may be one of them. Instead of doing a loony on the other mother, speak to your daughter, explain your concerns and what behaviour you expect of her. Generally girls lacking exhibitionist tendency's don't like to dress provocatively anyway. Remember kids only want to be like other kids so they can fit in and be liked.
2006-10-17 00:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest maybe you should calm down.. you know.. teens lie.. so be careful and don't jump to concusions. ask your daughter where you got these clothes from? ask for receipts.. anything.. perhaps being nicer to the mother of your daughter's friend will actually benfit you.. Do you know the saying.. keep your friends close, but your enemies closer... well it's true...
maybe you should invite your daughter's friend's mother out for dinner sometime.. chat.. get to know each other.. maybe something will slip out... ?
2006-10-17 00:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not going to get anywhere by accusing her of these things, I would just not let your daughter hang out over there anymore. End of story. Good Luck, and remember that you are not your kid's friend, you are their mother, and that is what she needs, a moral compass.
2006-10-17 00:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont let your daughter hang around her so often and have more control over the clothing that YOU buy for your daughter! If your daughter didn't have the clothing in the first place she couldnt wear it to look like a slu*t right?
2006-10-17 00:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋