I'm going to college next year and I am hoping that college will be a great time to explore who I am. Unfortunately, one of my friends is applying to all of the colleges I'm applying to and keeps saying how cool it would be if we were roommates. I like my friend and all but there is such a thing as spending too much time with one person. Plus, I want to start fresh. I think it would be hard to meet new people if I'm constantly with the same person all the time. Is there any advice that might help with this situation?
2006-10-16 17:09:42 · 16 answers · asked by courtney m 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A good friend and I ended up at the same college after high school but we both wanted to make our own new friends and take ourselves in different directions. For about the first 6 months we were there we really didn't hang out, until we were comfortable with who we were there.
Just tell your friend that it'd be nice to have a friendly face around but that you really want to venture out on your own for a while. Smile when you see her, but don't make plans until you want to.
Good luck and congrats on your independence!
2006-10-16 17:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree. I don't think there is such a thing as hanging out with someone too much if he/she is truly a good friend. I love my best friend to death and I'd love to spend more time with her than what we get. We're about 75 miles from each other, but, I felt this way when we were only 20 miles apart. I moved because I'm living with my girlfriend now. And, I feel like I want her around more too. I don't get tired of any friend.
2006-10-17 00:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should really worry about it too much, people do change and college is a BIG place. Ask the college about how they would assign roomate and see how you would avoid her.
Starting fresh is good but being alone is very lonely and bad.
Just look on the bright side, at least you will have someone to talk to at the college and not standing around like a loser.
You can seprated from your friend by spending less time with her.
But you dont wanted to tell her off, cause if she does go to the same college, gossip and rumors will fly!
Best suggestion, spend less time with her slowly... Dont do a big dramatic change.
2006-10-17 00:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Just Loving It. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to tell this person point blank that even though you enjoy their company, you dont like spending too much time with them. don't be roommates with this person because i think they'll drive you insane, but let them know they an stop by AFTER you've invited them. my guess is that your friend is totally scared of the college life and needs someone to be there for comfort. but as time goes on you'll meet new people and hopefully they will meet new people too and finally unglue themselves from you.
2006-10-17 00:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by kolie_rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be frank to your friend that she annoys you. And tell her not to follow you and pretend that you like her forever to be your companion. But if you don't have the heart to tell her this truth, then you have to seek another escape. Like avoid this person as often as possible. If she complaining why you seem not happy being accompanied by her, then this is the right time to open up every thing and be honest to her.
Good luck..
2006-10-17 00:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by yanti b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secretly apply to a different college!
2006-10-17 00:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Erriyberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean she might find new friends in college too so just enjoy your friendship with her while you still have it don't do some thing you might regret later.
2006-10-17 00:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by nursetech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. or just egnore him. My bfs friend always is looking for an excuse to hang out with us. he's so anoying. pretend your not home. Maybe u will be lucky and u can get in somewhere he cant. or just dont tell him anymore places u aplie too. so he cant try to go there.
2006-10-17 00:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by cassie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting a fake tail at ur back which will surely help u getting rid of those who trail.
Bel me, I have myself tried that.
2006-10-17 00:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with your friend. Tell him or her how you feel. But also let them know that you are still friends. Talk it out...and dont be harsh....i know how that feels
2006-10-17 00:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋