worried about controlling ex...?

Question

I just got out of a horrible emotionaly abusive, controlling and manipulative relationship a week and a half.ago...he had alot of insecurities a bad temper and was immensely jealouse. now you might find me crazy for asking this but after we broke up after the begging on the same day i left him ( i left him in person at his place) he's just emailed me 3 times since then and i was very strict and assertive with him..he tried the guilt trip crap on me and what not...now i am just worried..because i expected him to go more psycho than that after i left him..such as him stalking me and stuff..cuz he did warn me he'll never let me get away from him..but there has been no sign of him...and knowing how grudgy and unpredictable and unstable he is i'm really scared he might be planning something. I'm constantly paranoid and watching my back...he's way too quiet and i feel like he might be up to something...what would you say?

Answer 1

Never be alone. Warn the police. Put a restraining on him if you think its necassary. Tell your family and friends about what is going on so they know that if something does happen, it could be because of your ex. And I mean.. Tell your bestfriend.. mom ANYONE.. Atleast one close person.. Exactly how your relationship was. Leave nothing out so atleast that one person knows everything and can offer advise and information to the police. Watch your back and just be careful.

Answer 2

I left a very abusive marriage 3 years ago. He said the same threats to me.........he would never let me go, no-one else would ever have me etc. First of all u made the first step by leaving and no matter how many guilt trips he lays on u or how many threats he gives u DO NOT return. You have now shown him u are brave and u are not taking his crap anymore. He may very well be planning something, but if he does then u must show him immediately that that will not be tolerated. Do not reply to emails, that is just him trying to manipulate u and control u all over again, don't give him that power. Any threats he does make, or and stalking he tries involve the police immediately, this will show him that u are not scared to take control of the situation. My x tormented me for 8 months off and on, but he finally gave up and through it all I didn't allow him to destroy me, and I hope that for u too. Just stay strong. He won't continue forever and in the end u will see (as I did) that it is all worth it. I wish u all the best. Just remember u are not under his control now, u have all the control. As long as u remember that u will be fine.

Answer 3

Well first off if he trys emailing you again I would ignore him completely. Emailing him back will only drag things on more.
Is there somewhere else you could stay for a little while that he wouldn't know of? Like relatives or friends? I would also suggest getting something to protect yourself with such as mace or a tazer. If you see him hanging around get a restraining order right away.

Answer 4

first thing is first... get a restraining order from him.. i know its only a piece of paper but its a start and gets the ball rolling... u have every right 2 protect urself.. and dont b foolish get a roomate or when ur out and about make sure someone is with u a friend ect... honestly it may take awhile but eventually he'll moveon when some poor other female catches his eye.. he sees u as a possesion not a person.. dont antagonize and find aman right away to push him over the edge concentrate on u and ur well being and safety.. dont b afraid to call the authorities that is what they r hear for to protect us from asses like that.. if u need any advice im here.. been there done that

Answer 5

perhaps he is having a calmed down moment and yes he could be assessing the situation and there could be something bad to come, perhaps you should let a lose friend or relative someone you can trust know about all and try and spend time in the company of others espec at night if this is when you are worried more. If your ex does do anything untoward then your only option would be to contact the police and get a restraining order or similar

Answer 6

i would say to get a friend or family member to stay wit u for a wile just to be on the safe side.dont go out by urself at night u never kno.i dont wanna scare u but he could possably be thinkin of somethin.i have been in a sitchawation like this.he waited so that if somethin happened right after the breakup he couldnt get blamed right away.ur gonna be scared for awile but things will get better.just when u start datin again make sure its a guy that will be able to take care of u if ur ex tries anything....hope everything works out.and goodluck

Answer 7

have you told anyone about this? my friend had the same thing happen to her, her ex hid outside her window everynight. she had to get a restriction order. you should do that and tell all your neighbors about it and ask them to keep an eye out for him. that might make your paronoia go away a little.

Answer 8

I don't think he will something like that. If he was talking he is a coward and have no guts and want to terrorize you.
Nothing will happen. Once dumped shall never be taken back. That is more dangerous.

Answer 9

Be careful.. he may have just giving up. or not..... my ex just left me alone a week ago. and we broke up up a month ago. i'm worried but staying safe. you be safe.. IM me at lynnn30

Answer 10

get a freakin' protective order girl! And NEVER GO BACK TO THAT MAN OR LET HIM WORM HIS WAY BACK INTO YOUR HEART! PLEASE...