Is it normal to feel really sad after your divorce is final when you really wanted it?

Question

The marriage lasted only five months. Was a huge mistake. But I still feel sad and like a failure. I totally didn't expect to feel this way.

Answer 1

Totally, the way you feel is so normal. Its a loss, not to say you didn't want the divorce but you probably feel a loss cause its sort of like a failure, you saw your life a different way but it did not go the way you in visioned so you feel sad. But I would not worry you will get something out of this failed relationship and apply it to your life and move on to something better.

Answer 2

Even though your marriage was for a short time its still a door closing to something that could have been, dont feel like a failure, a failure would of been if you had both let the marriage linger on for a long time and then end up really hating each other,put it down to a life lesson thats the only way to get through life
all the best for the future

Answer 3

yes it is totally normal to feel sad after a divorce especially your first one. Even if you wanted the divorce it'll take a while. You tend to feel as though you failed, what could you have done to make it better? Why couldn't you make it work? You will certainly ask yourself these questions along with many others and kick yourself. It'll pass, just take some time for yourself and have a good cry. I didn't expect to feel so sad when I got divorced from my first husband but I did. We both wanted the divorce but somehow still felt badly. Marriage is something we believe will last forever, but only if it's worth it and well if wasn't worth it, just remember all the good things that happened. Don't dwell on negative and best of luck to you.

Answer 4

You are not a failure, because you learned things from your and his mistakes that will help you in your future relationship. Learning is never a failure Feeling sad is normal, but even you know things will get better for you. Consider the divorce date as the first day of a new beginning for you. Embrace your new life.

Answer 5

Absolutely. You had a dream and found reality didn't quite measure up. It requires you to re-evaluate your thought process when it comes to relationships... you SO wanted it to work, and you were disappointed. You are not a failure if you own up to your part in the relationships ups and downs...and then learn from your own mistakes!! Take this opportunity to get to know who you are and what you really want... It is a healing process and you will get through it... just remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. The sadness will eventually drift away and be replaced with a true sense of self-worth and the ability to see people for who they really are! You are on the road to a MUCH better life!!! Whoohoo!!

Answer 6

Hi. Been there. 1yr. Broke my heart. Don't feel like a failure. Learn from the mistake and move on. You will be fine. Divorce is a loss like a death. Take time to morn then get out and have fun!!

Answer 7

I think it's normal to feel what you're feeling and it's always painful to break what you thought was a strong bond between you and your ex, but time heals all wounds. You're not a failure and we don't always make the best choices in life but with every ending, there's always a beginning.

Answer 8

Yes, it is very normal to feel really sad after divorce is final.

Answer 9

Yes. It's the finality of that piece of paper that makes us feel sad. It's a huge chapter closed in your life. You will not feel so sad in time.

Answer 10

Yes, it's completely normal to feel the way you feel. Remember that even though it didn't work out between your parents, they still love you. You weren't the reason they separated, it just didn't work out between them. That doesn't mean your family is broken up and gone - you still have parents, but they are just no longer together. I understand it may feel like the family you once had is now gone, but you still have parents who love you just as much.