So, I told my best friend of more than 3 years that I need to distance myself away from him for a while on the phone. I like him more than a friend but he is engaged to his girlfriend. We are both 21. I also told him I have no idea when I will contact him. I am depressed and hurt because I rather not ruin his relationship than tell him I like him. I want him to forget about me. He called me, but I refused to pick it up. He left a message on the answering machine to please call him and that he loves me like a sister and if he does not hear from me in a week he will try to see me. He just kept calling and calling. I just can't do it anymore people. Sometimes, I wish I never met him. We have very similar tastes and can read each other minds, but I am the one who is always alone. I am the one who is always depressed. Therefore, I decided to leave him.
2006-10-16 16:47:37 · 9 answers · asked by Charlotte Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh my god, he called me again and said if he doesn't hear from me in over a week, he's gonna have people search for me?!? I am not his girlfriend, yet he's so attached to me. This is why my feelings are so confused!
2006-10-16 17:20:21 · update #1
you have a very strong will. well you there is not right or wrong really. see you are doing what you think is best. however, who is to say that that may be wrong. do what your doing now and in a week if he still wants to be your friend then you know you really have a good friensd(you may know this) but just talk to him. what if he liked you this whole tiome never told you and the met this girl and fell"in love" and said well this is my friend and she never likeed me more. but really you do. so talk to him tell him. just give it some time and good luck.
2006-10-16 16:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you tell him that you're confused about your feelings for him and that you think it's best to take some time apart so you can clear your thoughts? Don't leave him in the dark. Time apart will help you both get a better perspective of your relationship. If his friendship has been great, cherish it. Your low self esteem (always along, always depressed) is not appealing. Work on stearing your life in the direction that feels right for you (work out, eat healthy, pray, meditate, etc... whatever feels right for you) and your self esteem will grow and become very attractive. Don't lay your self esteem on his or any other guy's shoulder. You have to be content with yourself and your life before you can expect someone else to be content with you.
2006-10-16 16:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've done the right thing , I'm much older myself and at different points I"ve found myself on both sides of this situation . I make friends easily and I"m quite happily married . But I do speak with women friends who are very nice ladies in there own unique ways. It's difficult at times to remember that it can only be friendship but also difficult to not form a bond or be worried one may be hurt . You've acted in a very mature manner as I hope to continue doing . Good luck to you , sounds like you'll be a lucky catch for a nice guy !
2006-10-16 17:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very good person and I respect you for what you did. Maybe you should just tell him what you just told us, but not for the reason of messing his relationship up. For the simple fact that he doesn't know why you acting like this to him. At least he would know why you feel you need to distance yourself. Good luck!
2006-10-16 16:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Marla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was your choice to leave him, so that is not wrong. We all have choices to make in this lifetime. However, you do/did owe him an explanation. It's not fair the way you left it hanging. Would you want someone to do that to you? If you cannot face him, write him a letter, but for his sake and yours, get it off your chest and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-10-16 16:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel. but yes i think you did the right thing on leaving. you dont want to get inbetween him and his girlfriend. I hope you Feel better. it will be hard for a while but there are lots of good guys out there. you just have to find the right one for you.
2006-10-16 16:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by cassie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is incorrect to marry somebody purely for his or her degree. How stupid is that? your loved ones sound like very superficial human beings and that they do no longer care if the only you are going to marry is going to be a great guy or woman or no longer, only as long as she has a nursing degree. She is crying because of the fact u broke her coronary heart. How is she meant to react? nicely, I only desire that this lady you are going to marry is as candy and loving as your female buddy. in any different case, take it as a curse.
2016-12-16 09:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your best friend. You need to be honest with him .Your friendship will help you through this.
2006-10-16 16:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Daryl C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing.
2006-10-16 16:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by chico 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋