ive been living with my guy for almost a year. weve talked about marriage and both know its gunna happen. he says he wants to wait till the exact rite moment... but in my oppinion if you wait for that it will never come. is there something i can do to help him get to that "exact moment" faster?
2006-10-16 16:43:14 · 25 answers · asked by wp_ashro7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Discuss it during oral sex lol.. he will agree to it if your doing it right
2006-10-16 16:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you guys have only been together for 1 yr what's the rush? If you are meant to be nothing will get between the two of you. Obviously your bfriend knows he's not ready to get marry so why rush him for? You sounded like you're very young and impatient. I don't think there is anything you can do to convince him to get marry sooner. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. You want to spend enough to get to know one another. Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Give him some time and space rushing him to the aisle will only push him away from you. If you are the one for him he will pop the question before you know it.
2006-10-16 23:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can force the moment but it may turn into a disaster. when he is ready then that's the best time. First you need to get engaged then set a date and follow through. the next yr and half is good, why rush? if the love is strong now it will still be strong then. you are just excited instead of pushing him to get married buy him a ring and ask him to be your husband. tell him it doesn't have to be tomorrow and set a date for the big day. good luck
2006-10-16 23:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what the "exact right moment" would entail. Consider his answer and perhaps wait it out. He'll let you know when he's ready. You can't make him want to marry you faster, and to try would make you appear desperate (why rush into it?) and might push him away. Don't crowd him, but you do have a right to understand his reasoning.
2006-10-16 23:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my, you cant MAKE a guy want to get married, because honestly their NEVER ready to make such a big commitment like that.....ive been with the same dude for a year and 3 months, we have a 2 week old and we USE to talk about marriage, but he doesnt anymore. So nothing will make them want to get married because guys will always be guys, no matter what.
2006-10-16 23:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sexiiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is the right person ? Sounds like he is not that willing to settle. Are you sure he will ask you to marry him one day ? Or he is just dragging on.
Don't get marry for the sake of getting marry. Marrying someone and have kids with that person just bring more pain later. Much much more pain. And usually, the lady get the short end of the sticks.
Wisen up, and take a closer look at him and be realistic about what is the prospect of him and you.
2006-10-16 23:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good thing if he's the one who always talks about it or brings it up first. There really isn't a right timeframe, but you both should be on the same page. Let him lead and leave the rest to God. If you're ready and he isn't, maybe you have to consider whether this is really God's best for you.
2006-10-17 00:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you do not have faith that it will happen. This is a serious problem, which you should make clear before committing into a marriage. If you insist, then getting yourself pregnant may be the fastest way to make him commit. Think twice!
2006-10-17 00:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Q.V. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to rush him to do it something aint right the guy should be more than anxious to marry you if not he may not be ready if he wants to delay it for reasons like not being financially stable thats understandable but anything else girl i would think twice about it
2006-10-16 23:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by saywhat? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you are right the right moment never comes .He needs to explain to you what the right moment to him is if he just makes more excuses i would leave him for a while or depending on his answer forever.Your just being used not loved from what you say .
2006-10-16 23:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it. Period. I lived with my guy for 2.5 years before he popped the question. And we dated for 2 years before that. He was just waiting for the ring to be paid for.
2006-10-16 23:53:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋