how do you change yourself and your attitude?

Question

i dont like the way ive been acting or treating people, especially my boyfriend. I just want to change. any ideas? seriously!

Answer 1

Just let the people around you help you and don't try and take everything on alone. Maybe talk to your boyfriend about the things that's making you act differently.

Answer 2

A personal journey into knowing self is the answer to your question. To know one self on the deepest level is to learn to 'let go of' certain aspects of self that do NOT serve our higher purpose OR the people we love. To do otherwise keeps the cycle energised and resentment and bitterness manifest emotionally and become part of our reactiveness. This is not a guilt trip or a 'beat myself up' place to be in, where one needs to be once 'aware' of this aspect...is to do the 'work'.

If one does not go within one will go without...and seriously we do not want this for ourselves or anyone we love....

First choice is to breathe....

Next choice after that may well to do to serve our highest potential to be the best we can be at any given moment. The power is now, right now, make the choice right now, to change.

Ask for cosmic help and you will receive, start opening your eyes for the help can come in a 'book' or a simple 'word' that is a keyword in your mind, that triggers the undeniable knowledge you have contained within you. Release it into your conscious life and live it, be it and just be happy. You are part of a grander plan, and you have the opportunity to see past attachments out side of self, especially when these attachments are trying to release themselves of you. If you dont do the work, you will attract more of what has become your now reality.
Change is instantaneous.....try it....you will find yourself and your connection to all that is...within you.

Love, Light 'n' Laughter!
Harriett Potty

Answer 3

Well, you are on the right course, the first is to want to change, and you already stated that. Have you considered volunteering for shelters, or others that are in need. This really gives one a Reality check about Life, and how others react to kindness. Good for you, I wish all the Success. Take Care.

Answer 4

When you find yourself acting like that look at what triggered that reaction in you and express your feelings politely to whoever. If you are unable to do that then do nothing until you have calmed down enough to proceed respectfully. After doing that for months you will find that you won't react the same way you have been doing.

Answer 5

control your initial emotion to any event,by not reacting too fast or saying the first thing that comes to your mind.Think of other's feelings before you speak,weight your words.Don't refrain your emotions, just try and learn to keep them inside for a few seconds, or sometimes days,before saying or doing something you would regret.I went through that myself.I got a lot better and avoided many dangerous/painful situations or consequences.

Answer 6

Meditate

Answer 7

Try JESUS! He says we must change our hearts and lives because the kingdom of heaven is near. And He says I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you. We must become like Him. Jesus treated everyone lovingly,compassionately,and fairly even when they didn't deserve it. So must we.

Answer 8

i hope & wish u good luck therapy, reading good books,
joining discussion groups , or just self discipline can all be helpful ....... some join a religion but i prefer studying ethics or phisolophy or the like instead hopefuly you will find your niche.

Answer 9

start listening to Dr. Laura

Answer 10

Tell me when you are done.