I've been happily married for 2 1/2 years now and may be getting closer to not having my own natural children. How do I approach my husband with my desire to conceive? I've stressed it before how much time we have left, he doesn't seem concerned. I'm worried that if I never have a child I will regret it and resent my husband also. Thank you for taking time to read my question.
2006-10-16 16:24:10 · 10 answers · asked by odessa2469 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have you try to take to him but seriously. tell him i am ready to be a mother. please don't take that away from me. if he love you he will understand where you are coming from. or maybe he a afraid to be a father. some guys are like that but once he has a baby in his arms then he wont be. but i would say talk to him and don't stress out. i been marry for year and half and at first my husband didn't want kids yet but then now he want some. so i know how you feel. the first thing to remember don't stress out when the time is right the baby will come OK. so i hope my advise help you and good luck OK.
2006-10-16 16:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sitting down and having a heart to heart about your feelings doesn't help the situation you do have other options. If you have a relative, friend, neighbor, or anyone you know with a small child you could try caring for that child while your husband is home. Maybe he is just scared, a lot of men are because they don't what to expect. If talking, watching other children, or anything else you have tried doesn't work I would suggest that you both go to counseling of some sort to work through the issue together. Good luck!
2006-10-16 16:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and talk about. But I beg you to not "force" your husband to have a child. If both people do not agree on a child, its not healthy to bring one into the world anyway. You may resent your husband for not having a child and he will resent you for making him do something he does not want.
2006-10-16 16:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but if you force the issue your husband may end up recenting you.
This is really something you should have discussed before you got married.
Is he not concerned or does he not want kids?
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Do not "trick" him into having a child like other posters have suggested. This is manipulative and disrespectful and the worst thing you could do for your marriage.
If you can't agree then maybe you shouldn't be married.
2006-10-16 16:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should realize that it was your fault that this was not discussed before marriage. So don't resent your husband, he did not consent to having children. It is his free will. If you two are so polarized in this issue, I see breakup in my crystal ball.
p.s. You can have children all the way up until menopause.
2006-10-16 16:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by mulderlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a decision you BOTH have to make. You can not get him to agree to babies if babies are not on his list of priorities. And you do not want him agreeing to them if his heart is not into being a father one day. This should have been discussed BEFORE you got married.
2006-10-16 16:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop taking your birth control that should do the trick its really not up to him however if its important for you to have him agree just tell him how you feel and that you want to start now not later
2006-10-16 16:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see u cant make him wont kids so u have to decide if u love him more then u would like to have a child
2006-10-16 16:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just set down and talk to him and if he brushes you off just tell him how u feel and what your wanting maybe he will meet you in the middle
2006-10-16 16:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just use a condom
use a picture of you as a child for ur kid
dee dee dee
2006-10-16 16:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by mjhteen1414 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋