Fine, what do you guys think about this....?

Question

I am 26 years old and I do not wan children.

I work with a few mothers.

One mother of a 2 1/2 yr old (she happens to be 35 or 36) told me in should go sky diving (during a recent discussion of doing a work trip to go sky diving) because it wouldnt matter if anything happend to me since I didnt have children. I am almost 10 years younger than her when she had her daughter, why didnt she go and risk her life since it wasnt worth living?

Also, why am I expected to be at work every single day since I dont have children. Just because i dont have children does not mean I do not have persoanl responsibilities and sh** I have to take care of, but parnets get a free pass as far as that goes and I know plenty of people who USE their children as way to get out of work.

So?

No - I love my job, I am just tired for these seld-serving "mothers" using their children as an excuse to gte out wof work, cuz then I have to do their crap. And usually they leave me the really hard crap to deal with....

Answer 1

U know honestly it's true before I had my son it was hell trying to get off work for even the most legitimate things and now that I have a child I can call in if I don't even feel like going to work and blame it on my son. It's really not fair but I don't take advantage of it until my husband comes back from Iraq every six months then I admit I am guilty of using 2 days then. But majority of the ppl where I work are single or without kids cuz we have such a different scedule than most ppl. I'm a flight attendant supervisor for AA. I also conver alot for single ppl so they can go on dates or view a city where in, so really it's a trade off atleast in my situation. but that skydiving thing was messed up, you should really put some hot sauce on yo finger and poke her azz in the eye lol

Answer 2

I have to admit, this is a tough question for me answer. I really feel your pain and am trying very hard to look at both sides before making my statements.
I am a 24 year old male, who is single and has no kids, but see these things happen in my work place as well. They used to bother me a lot, along with a lot of other 'excuses' people would come up with to get out of work. It also bothered me how they would get away with it and when I used a sick day, I would get in a lot of trouble!

I suppose the only comfort I can give you with this situation is for you to know that you are a good person. Yes you probably are being taken advantage of and being used, but please understand that all things come full circle. Sometimes we are down, sometimes we are up. The trick is to stay calm and peaceful no matter where we are in life, realizing that it won't be long before we're in the other position.

I just lost my job this week because a couple of my co-workers had it in for me and filed a complaint about me that was completely false. At first I was really pissed off, now I understand that it was just my time. A part of me wants to seek revenge and do horrible things to those people, but the stronger part says no, let their karma be their own, I just burned off some of my bad karma this week. And you know what? I may be in for a ruff time ahead of me without an income, but I feel at ease and I know things will work out. (sorry didn't mean to turn that into my story!)

Answer 3

Not everybody wants children. Each generation has less children in America so you are not alone. Don't close the door on it though. I was in my 30's before the idea held any appeal for me. I'm a father now and I couldn't be happier.

If you work at a company that gives parents a break on missing work or being tardy don't make too much of an issue. Your superiors obviously know what's going on so it's probably by design. If it bothers you too much, get a job elsewhere. Complaining will just make you look bad.

Answer 4

It is unfortunate that you are working with some women like that, who do not think beyond their own worlds. Not all mothers are like that, I have three children, two around your age and I never missed work. There are always going to be individuals that work the system.

Matter of fact I have used similar arguments in the respect that I have three kids and I do it why are they getting away with it? But alas there are some things regardless of whether they are fair or not we will not change.

Answer 5

You seem overwrought and upset with your job. If this is permanent you might need a change. If they have PTO and use it that's not really your business. I personally don't take time off, because I have nothing to do. *shrugging* The skydiving thing was rude. I work with a woman I can't stand too. We're both mothers (although hers is grown). That's life.

Why don't you call in tomorrow and say you have strep throat. Then lounge around watching bad daytime TV. I think you'll feel better. ;)

Answer 6

If you don't want children that is your choice. People should respect it, not attack it. What your co-worker said is plain stupid and selfish. While it may be true that some people use their kids as crutches, you shouldn't be so bitter and jagged towards parents. I have three kids and am expected to work every day like anyone else. If I have an issue with my child and have to stay home - that is what personal and vacation days are for. We have the same amount of vacation time as anyone else, we just use to take care of kids on ocassion. You use it to take care of personal business. Who cares? You should not assume that all parents are irresponsible like what you describe. I am NOT one of them.

Answer 7

Well, you should just count your lucky stars because kids are a 24 hour 7 day a week job, no pay, no sick time and no vacations. No matter how old they get, you still worry about them for the rest of your life. My children are my legacy to the world.

Answer 8

First, it's ok that you don't want children and that comment your co-worker made was rude. Secondly, you should be treated the same as the rest of the people you work with, whether or not you're a parent. You should make that clear to your boss.

Good luck skydiving! ha ha...

Answer 9

I am sorry, I really dont know what its like to be you.
All I can say is ignore them, and dont share too much of your personal life with these people. If she says something that rude to you then dont even bother with her if you dont need to. She has already shown her true colors in regard to you.
Well, Good for you , as long as you know what you want in life its worth it. Alot of women give up thier true passions for kids, and they never really get back on track. This is why serious career women and actresses/singers dont have kids or even stay in marriages. ITs just too much !
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Answer 10

I Can't have children; medical condition.
In reality you can leave, or not go, to work whenever you want. Excuse: you don't need one....sorry but that's personal.
In our society we need licenses to do everything except to have children, what's up with that?