My wife and I have been married almost 4 years, I took a job after letting her make the decision, I am 5 hrs away from by car. I go home every other weekend for 3 days and every other Wednesday and Thursday. Since I have been up here things havent been good, She is a Mexican who lives in Tijuana and does not have her papers yet, shes mad cause she doesnt get to see me when she wants, I keep giving her a certain amount of moneytwice a month she is happy for a while but after a while she needs more, and it never quits. I am faithfull clean and look good and treat her good, but it seems as though she is never happy, almost as if she is digging for gold, and when I do go home she treats me like **** an constantly tells me she loves me less everyday, what should I do about this, I mean I love her and if I can make it work I will, I have even tried to get her to go to counseling with me and she refuses, anyone have any suggestions and dont be afraid to email please.
2006-10-16 16:05:36 · 15 answers · asked by Joshua Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're getting used. File for divorce - don't tell her, just do it.
2006-10-16 16:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's only happy when she is getting the money, You have your answer right there. If she truly loved you, she would be grateful for a man to stay true to her being so far away, and appreciate the fact that you are working and doing what you do for the both of you. If she is loving you less and less each day, let her go and let some other sucker take your place.
2006-10-16 23:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can u make your marriage work when your wife isn't willing to be supportive of u? From what I understand, she is the one who made the decision for u to get this job, am I correct? Well, it sounds as though she's now regretting it...except when she's getting the money. The only way u can make this work is if she is willing to support u and work on the marriage with u, otherwise I don't see this going anywhere.
2006-10-16 23:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your circumstances, but being 5 hours away and only seeing her every other weekend will not be good for any marriage. If she treats you horribly and tells you she loves you less everyday, then why are you hanging on to her. She has no interest in counseling! I think that you know what you need to do, and you are just seeking affirmation on this. Yes, move on if she is unwilling to meet you halfway on this one. Good luck.
2006-10-16 23:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry to tell you like this but maybe she has some one else and only needs you for the $$$ and if she refuses to go with you to counseling that means she dont love you or the relationship its over beacuase she doesnt whant the relationship to work and dont waist $$$ on couseling when theres no hope anymore she tells you she loves you so you could supply more money.
2006-10-16 23:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to tell u this but u pretty much answered ur own question...u got a gold digger on ur hands... she should only wana see u that should b the most important thing..not money.it saya alot that she doesnt want counseling..she's just using u till another comes along...u deserve better...cut ur losses b 4 they get to big....it'll hurt but time heals all wounds and in the end u'll b the winner and find one who loves u 4 and is happy just to b urs and at ur side.
2006-10-16 23:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you might love her but if she isn't willing to go to counseling than she is just a gold digger. You need to cut the ties and move on.
2006-10-16 23:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be patient with your clamoring wife. Since you are only 5 hours drive from her, why not pay her a weeklly visit. Perhaps the more often you see each other, she might gradually changed. good luck.
2006-10-16 23:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get a job a bit closer meaning shorter in distance and hourly. also you have to understand her she probably feels like you two are some how getting distant, try to fix her legal situation!!!! don't give up try !!!!! find other resources !!!!turn the tables how would you feel
2006-10-16 23:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by gisela50cent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pretty clear to me why she asked you to move - to keep you further away from her and if you stop that money coming in she will dump you so fast you won't know what hit you. I'm a woman - please believe she needs ur money and is glad you dont have to be around while she's spending it
2006-10-16 23:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by saywhat? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes cheating or just in it for the money if she ant willing to try to fix the relationship then she dose not want to be in it.even though you love her its not right for her to treat you like that.
2006-10-16 23:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋