My husband believes that he may be depressed. We haven't had a very good marriage for about a year. So I'm feeling that maybe he is going to say that he feels the way he does because of me and our marriage and kids. Is that possible?
2006-10-16 16:04:13 · 11 answers · asked by desprite 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
True depression is not anyone's fault. It is the result of hormonal imbalances in the brain. Some people are more prone to depression than others, though, and more likely to react badly to unhappy circumstances. However, you and your husband are in this marriage together, and if it isn't going well, it is the responsibility of BOTH of you to fix it. If he is depressed, he has no right to simply blame you, unless he has already made a huge effort to make things better and you've resisted. Have him talk to a doctor or therapist and possibly think about medications. If your husband truly does have clinical depression, he might be amazed how much better your marriage and everything else looks once the depression is being handled. Good luck!
2006-10-16 16:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His depression MAY be in part because of you but i highly doubt it.The only reason you may be at fault is if you actually did something bad to make him depressed like cheat on him or something to that effect.
But if you havent then he may be having issues with himself in his head. It could be something in the past or it could be his age. But whatever it is a person has to deal with that part of there life and not bring there spouse down with them.
My recommendation is not drugs like the poster above stated. I say you both try to get more physical excercise, change things up a bit. Maybe join a gym together and look good for each other.
Sometimes peoples lives become too too too routine and they get bored and depressed. i hope that helped.
2006-10-16 16:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by xxkhbxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult question but the only one that can answer is your spouse. If he has told you he is depressed will he tell you what is causing his feelings? Maybe it is his work, or what he has accomplished in life, or where he wishes that he could be instead of how he is feeling now. Is there something that he is missing or looking for? Talk to him and listen to his answers. Try to see if his answers match his emotion. If you care for him be his friend. If it is not meant to be those answers will come. Communication will open the most truthful doors and sometime you have to knock on them many times.
2006-10-16 16:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by John O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things. It could be the pressures at work, or maybe he just isn't satisfied at work. It could be the pressures at home too. I go through spurts every now and again of feeling low....I, too, blame it on my spouse, but really it is because of so many factors added up. Start up a routine where you go for a walk or run at night, if time and schedules permit, or join a gym and sneak in a workout before or after work, or during lunch. Exercise really helps and will make him feel better about himself, and in turn, will benefit your family and marriage. Good luck to you.
2006-10-16 16:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by 2Good4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is an illness and it can be triggered by stress.One symptom could be an inability in coping with every day life. In most cases however it is a chemical imbalance in the brain. There are many forms of depression, and yes "situational" depression does exist. I would not go so far as blaming yourself, The person experiencing depressions is the one that needs to seek help.
2006-10-16 16:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfield8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually depression is the cause of a troubled marriage not the troubled marriage is the cause of the depression. He may think it is but if he takes care of the depression with medication (which will probably wreck your love life because of the side effects) it might lighten things up around your house a bit.
2006-10-16 16:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is possible because anything is possible. All at the same time it could just be a mental problem with him. He may just be going through a stage where he needs some some time along. He should just try to have a Lil family outing and just talk about it. If that don't work talking to a friend would be a solution.
2006-10-16 16:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lady D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situation contributes. It is the response that becomes depression. You are not to blame, unless you are actively undermining another. Depression is an epidemic. It can be mild to extreme. Don't ignore it. No perfect solutions. Just a lot of work.
2006-10-16 16:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his depression is destroying the marriage. Encourage him to get some help.
2006-10-16 16:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in a word yes ,do you see anybody else around who can be blamed
couples should cheer each other up
if they cant ,something is lacking in the relation ship.
2006-10-16 16:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋