my bf and i have been together for almost 2 yrs - we live together snd the sex is good - when it happens - I would like sex 3 times a week at least but we have gone through times without sex for 2 months - he never initiates - its always me and he rejects me many times - he says its not me but i cant help but feel rejected .he looks at porn online and it kills me - even though he could be with me anytime he wants me he looks at porn instead of me - he was going online once a day or every other day for a while and i finally freaked out - he said he would cut down but he still goes on...not as much as far as i can tell...y would he need that if he can have me - we r happy - he says he doesnt always "do anything" sometimes he just goes to look...that hurts me am i crazy???
2006-10-16 15:52:44 · 23 answers · asked by Michelle P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
porn are bored once you have too much. so no worry. Real thing that u can touch always better.
2006-10-16 16:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be he has a fetish that he is worried to tell you about? Or you do not like doing something in bed he likes. Never the less he should still want you either way. Porn is normal I am addicted to it even though I could get guys I still need my porn I can admit that.
Porn is good until it becomes a Need. For instance if someone is missing sleep , dinner , work , or school to view porn. Or if it causes any harm to the body from like lack of sleep or whatever. Also if someone avoids seeing friends or family members because they are watching too much porn that is also an other reason. You could also argue that its too much when someone stops sleeping with there partner or Rejects them. If he says its not you maybe it is not. But that's about I can say without knowing a lot more.
2006-10-16 22:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK ,I am going to give this a stab, Porn is fantasy, There isn't any demands or connections.
No conversation is needed, no intimacy. It can't ever replace a real relationship. Internet porn is addictive because it is discovery after discovery.
I doubt that there just one persons picture he is stuck on, he is surfing site leads to site. It is new to him, eventually it will get boring and not be such a draw.It is a addiction, science has proven that chemicals are introduced that are related to pleasure.
You are not crazy ,He is having a problem and it is embarrassing for him to admit it. You both need to talk and set some limits, just like quitting smoking it will take time.
2006-10-16 23:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I caught my boyfriend "doing something" to porn without me participating, I would probably leave him. It's like cheating!! You need to sit him down and tell him how seriously this hurts you. Don't let him make excuses. Do you look at it or watch it with him? If not, make a deal that you will every once in a while if he will cut back on doing it on his own. I think this is a real addiction, and if he really understands that your relationship may be in jeopardy, it may be enough to stop him. Good luck!
2006-10-16 23:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your initial question is "How much porn is too much?" It is healthy to experiment a little, whether with porn or with each other, but when the porn is interfering with your personal sex life, it is too much. Porn can be addictive, good luck to you. Sounds like he is probably masturbating so much, he doesn't have the energy for you. What a fool!
2006-10-16 23:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not crazy. But maybe your fella has an addiction to porn. He should want to make love to you because you are his and beautiful and he desires you and only you. It's not fair he has to look at porn before he has intimacy with you. You may want to consult a sex or porn addiction counsellor for yourself. The problem is not you.
2006-10-16 23:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree wit arrocket this man probably does have some form of a problem only because when u get addictions like that it's usually cuz of some childhood mishap or something like that, jus look at it like this it is an addiction an all addictions need some form of intervention.
2006-10-16 23:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by rodrickm85@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably not you it's just a fetish or addiction. Some people can only get stimulated in certian ways and this may be the case. try to get involved in the porn with him and it could be a satisfying situation. if that don't work than i'd go down the road
2006-10-16 22:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by foolsowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be blunt, your BF has a problem. If he truly cared about you, he would not put the p*rn ahead of you. He is hurting your self-esteem, and that's not right.
Furthermore, his hangup with p*rn could be a sign of bigger problems in the future. I suggest you break up with him and look for a healthier, better-adjusted man.
2006-10-16 22:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie ya man needs help if your sexi just those other girl and if he wants to be wit u then u gotta take charge and say Babi I'm ya porn star and u are mine no looking at da damn computer no more ok and he'll love u?! hopefully lolz
2006-10-16 22:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Valentina' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋