how many of you think this is wrong?

Question

my friend is 14 and she has a boyfriend. she is cheating on him by being all over this one guy that i like. he knows she has a boyfriend, but he just is all over her too. she knows she is cheating, but she doesnt really care. her boyfriend doesnt know, and probly wouldnt care, but my friend says she will never brake up with him. how many of you think this is wrong. what should i say to her to stop. do you have any advice on what i should tell them?

Answer 1

I think what you should do is forget about the boy that you like, at least for a few years. If you guys are still in the same school, or in the same neiborhood, or however you all know each other, a few years from now, when you are 16.17 or 18 things may be different. You guys change so much as teenagers. You may be thinking that you'll still be the same , but you wont, every year you guys ( well, actually the girls) mature at an alarming rate. At this point in time he is an immature little boy who doesnt realize that he is disrespecting you by being all over your friend.(I'll get to her in a minute) And, believe it or not, he is acting exactly how he is suppose to be acting. Although, you didnt mention his age, he is still an immature little boy. A few years from now however, things may be different. Your interests may change, your agenda may change, the things that are important to you may change. He probably will not be to appealing to you in a little while when your thinking about yur first car, and college, and jobs. Right now, you need to keep your head in the right place. And that place is in your books and focused on the future. Seriously. Their is so much going on out there in the world that one little measly boy and his antics shouldnt upset you so much. BRUSH THAT DIRT OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!! and move on to bigger and better things. Once you stop dwelling on him, and make you your number 1 priority, your eyes will open to all the other things this world has to offer.

As for this girl, never refer to her as your friend again. Because she isn't. It is ok I guess to have her as an aquaintance, but a friend she is not. If she knows that you are diggin this guy, and she still hangs all over him....what does that say??? BE SMART..STUPID IS SO UNAPPEALING AND UGLY!!!! She is not worth the time that you are spending thinking about what she is doing...and dont worry about who she is messing around with anymore. let her do her thing, she is going to be marked as "easy" aka "a $lut" aka "a quick bang" aka "a fluzy" aka " a whore". What will happen if you continue to hang around her, is that you will be what they call, guilty by association...so all those words that people are going to label her as, guess what..be ready to be called the same thing. Distance yourself from the nonsense. Have a good head on you and you know what GET THAT DIRT OFF YOUR SHOULDER TOO!!! Its not worth it.
Learn and grow from these experiences, because this is not the only time in your life that a friend will urn out not to be a friend, and a boy will turn out to be a complete jerk. Consider this preperation for the long road of love and life you have a head of you. Hey Girl, keep your head up and ditch the losers. Love yourself first and foremost. Stay strong!!!

Answer 2

I think this is wrong, even if this girl is 14. No matter what age u cheat it doesn't make it anymore right, because once a cheater always a cheater. It especially isn't right if she is all over the guy you like and knows it, this doesn't make her your friend. I think you should tell her how you feel about this and if she doesn't care and continues I would end this friendship. And with the guy I would tell him how you feel about him and how its making you feel with him all over her especially if she has a bf, I would also tell him to think about this, if she is has a bf and cheating what makes him think that if they go out she wouln't cheat on him also.

Answer 3

Nothing, it doesn't sound like you really want to do the right thing. It sounds like since you like this boy your friend is cheating with, you want to be a teller tale. Your first obligation is to your friend no matter what she is doing with her love life. Of course you can voice your opinion to her but don't break your bond and trust with your friend over a boy. There will be plenty more where he came from. Seems kind of young for the word cheating. I hope you and your friend hasn't made it past second base yet?

Answer 4

if she is acting like this now i hate to see her when she gets older tell her that she should leave her boyfriend and tell her because cheating is wrong and mean and as for you liking the guy she is all over stay away from him he cant be very good news if he knows she has a boyfriend and he don't care

Answer 5

Practicing for the future, is she? Cheating is always wrong, depending on real circumstances.Caramel Fudge Cheesecake Recipe

1 Package fudge brownie mix (8" square pan size)
1 Package (14 ounces) caramels
1/4 cup evaporated milk
1-1/4 cups coarsely chopped pecans
2 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened
1/2 cup sugar
2 eggs
2 squares (1 ounce each) semisweet chocolate, melted
2 squares (1 ounce each) unsweetened chocolate, melted

Prepare brownie batter according to the package directions. Spread into a greased 9" springform pan. Bake at 350°F for 20 minutes. Cool for 10 minutes on a wire rack. Meanwhile, in a microwave-safe bowl, melt caramels with milk. Pour over brownie crust; sprinkle with pecans. In a mixing bowl, combine the cream cheese and sugar; mix well. Add eggs, beating on low speed just until combined. Stir in melted chocolate. Pour over pecans. Bake at 350°F for 35-40 minutes or until the center is almost set. Cool on a wire rack for 10 minutes. Run a knife around edge of pan to loosen; cool completely. Chill overnight. Remove sides of pan before serving. Store leftovers in the refrigerator. Yield: 12 servings.

Answer 6

i wouldnt really consider her a friend if she is cheating with the guy that you like and she knows you like him. you should tell her either you stop cheating on him, or i will go and tell your bf. i would go and tell her bf, even though you shoudnt meddle, it is just plain wrong for him not to know. you have to step up and tell him, cause no one else has had the deciency to anyways.

Answer 7

At 14, a girl as no business having a boyfriend. There is way too much drama like you described. It ends up being a huge soap opera of he said she said and just no fun at all. Really...who needs the stress of all that crud?

Answer 8

she's 14 non of this matters to her yet. and she might not until she is older and really cares about someone and he cheats and her and she relizes what she was doing to people really hurt. 14 year olds are imature and impulsive. PLUS when your 14 your shouldn't be messing with boys sexually anyways,.. you wanna have a baby now? belive me it's not fun in anyway.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need to find you some new friends. 14 is too young to be all over any boy regardless who he is. I certainly hope you do not behave this way. Have more respect for yourself.

Answer 10

Usually I would tell you to tell her to knock it off. Or tell the bf, but its not cool to be in other ppl's business. But if its really driving you up the walk try to get another friend to write and anonymous note and stick it in your cheating friend's bf's locker or one of his books. That way he knows whats going on, and he'll break up with her in seconds. But I doubt if she would be the one to care, if she has been slobbing on the guy you like. And its beyond wrong.