I have a question about marriage..?

Question

(I'm a young adult that's never been married so i have an honest question about marriage) Ladies, lets say that your dating your man, you look and dress nice and he's wowed by your attractiveness and personality. Then you get married. Does your husband not notice you as much anymore because he's so used to your personality and looks over time?

This is something that worries me about marriage. Has this happened to you?

Thanks for all the answers, i read all of them. Much appreciated.

Answer 1

I've been married for almost 3 yrs and so far it hasn't happend...yet. Obviously there will be times when u can't look your best...for example, when you're sick. Just make sure that when possible, make yourself look interesting to your husband and wear the stuff he likes to see u in.

Answer 2

After years of marriage, of course the goo-goo stage diminishes, but is replaced with intimacy & a closeness that time increases. My husband & I still compliment each other when the other looks nice, does something special, etc. He still wants me in the bedroom just as much as before we were married (even though I've put on a few pds.), opens doors, brings unexpected flowers......we have been married 11 years. You have to know the person you want to marry for some time before getting married, so you get a picture of who they really are and then you shouldn't be surprised after marriage.

Answer 3

I don't think that's always to case. My husband tells me he likes the way I look all the time (married 7 1/2 years).

I think sometimes it just seems that way, because when you are married, you are with them 24/7. It's not like just going out on the weekends or soemthings like that. They see you at your best and your worst, so they just kind of get used to all of you. I don't think it necessarily means they don't notice you anymore.

I like to try new outfits and even lingerie every now and then to keep his attention. When I have changed something in my outfit that's not usually like me, he tends to notice and comment. Much of the time it's good.

but if you are thinking about marriage and aren't 99% sure he is committed to you 100%, then stop and think about things. He should love and respect you at all time no matter what. Even if you gain a few after marriageor don't get all "glammed up" every day. That shouldn't matter to him or you!!!! You both shoudl love each other unconditionally!!!!

Answer 4

You can definitely still be wowed by your spouse no matter how long you've been with someone, or vice verse. The only difference when you are truly in love with someone, is they look even better because their is so much other than looks that's attractive. Just think about your parents or if someone you know and saw everyday that gained thirty pounds. You tend not to notice your parents aging or your friend gaining weight, because theirs so much more to them besides looks. He always will notice, the problem is he might not always say anything.

Answer 5

No.Your outward appearance got his attention, but if the relationship leads to marriage he has gone past the looks.He has fallen in love with the person.If it was only physical attraction it will wear off way before you get to the alter.A man wants a woman that can add on to his life not take away from it.When you get married it will feel like you have worn off of him from time to time, so you have to help keep the fire burning by being abstract and experincing new things with each other.Always communicate with him to no what he likes and he will no what you like.

Answer 6

'Sure it happens... after we get married we become "comfortable" we fart and burp in front of our spouse and sometimes go a whole day without even getting dressed. Personally I wouldn't want it any other way.

My mate loves me no matter what I wear and his gas is enough to stink up the whole house... but I guess mine isn't any better. But it is soooo wonderful to be able to be yourself and not feel as if you have to pretend your not human all the time... and still be accepted and loved.

Then there are the times I do dress up....and whoa... his eyes light up but not because he loves me more then....but just because.

Answer 7

Stay Foxy for him and stay away from Granny panties.....Flirt and hold hands no matter how old you are. The couples that don't find each other attractive after marriage aren't keeping the spice there. It can happen married or not if you don't work at it.....remember....stay out of the granny panties and into those thongs!!! :-)

Answer 8

Thing is got to keep surprising him. I read in cosmo for this month, that guys are scared of boredom in a relationship, especially a marriage, so have to keep him on his toes. And he should do the same for you too. Keep it interesting and fun with each other don't get stuck in a rut.

Answer 9

Take it from someone who was married for 7 years, we do notice even if we don't say it as much.


EDIT-Some random quote: True love is finding someone who sees you the same way you think you look when you see yourself in a mirror.

Answer 10

Always keep yourself up sometimes we tend to be caught up in the home the kids etc. and hubby comes home and wants his wife to be that single girl he was dating.....keep each other happy and respect each other and the love will conquer all the little bits of life that a marriage brings,,sureilll