Please check earlier question i posted.My family/friends never celebrate my birthdays uncle or aunt come down from another country to celebrate fathers birthday take him out to dinner gift expensive things like brand new house etc 1 month back celebrate grandpas birthday.None of them wish on my birthday it happens every year.As every year his sibling came from other country to celebrate his birthday my mother father gave me guilt trips when i said i wouldnt come(dinner/celebrate).I was really upset as they did it from past years(im 25).How do i let my family,friends realise that if they dont wish me on my birthday(for 24years)i wont wish/attend/celebrate their birthday no guilt trips.
2006-10-16 15:38:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow trhough on your altamatum. Also go out and celebrate your bd, on your own. Maybe you'll meet someone, and his/her bd might be the same day or week.
2006-10-16 15:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through, see my fiance family did the same thing to him...until i got with him...they would never know when his birthday was and well i would always ask them " What are you getting TJ for his birthday?" And they would be like oh this and that...but they didnt know his birthday was coming up. So If i was you i would tell them how you feel, and if they play that "guilt trip" on you just get back at them and tell them that they never wish you a happy birthday..etc...I hope this helps you out...
2006-10-16 22:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to feel the way you do there should be no guilt trips. have you confronted your parents for an answer to the reason that no one acknowleges your birthday. better still find someone you really like and maybe some friends and spend your birthday with people that will celebrate with you
2006-10-16 22:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by sharon r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. You can be the "better person." You'll respect yourself more that way. Accept it how it is-- you don't have to understand their perspective, although you can certainly ask them why they don't acknowledge your birthday. You just have to form a perspective for yourself that doesn't nurture bitterness. You can't change others, but you can change yourself-- your life is all about you. If it means so much to you to have your birthday acknowledged, it's okay to have a birthday get together and invite your friends and family.
2006-10-16 22:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to accept family for who they are, and allow them to be them. Being unkind will just hurt you in the end. If it really hurt me instead of "punishing" them by not attending a birthday, I would ask why they never recognize my birthday and tell them how hurt it makes you feel. Ask them does it give them pleasure to hurt you? Find out the truth first, see if they are just clods, or they really want to hurt you for some unknown reason, then go from there.
2006-10-16 23:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them (at the next birthday celebration): "Oh, Aunt so and so...it's just so strange that you come to visit for Grandpa's birthday but never mine..." and see what she says.
2006-10-16 22:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by mivelantine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ech, I wouldn't celebrate their birthdays either! They obviously don't appreciate you. You should have like a family conference/meeting to discuss this, and ask them why they don't celebrate your special day, but ask that you celebrate others.
2006-10-16 23:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i had no birthdays i would b the same as u good for u stay strong and revolt against the no birthday parents
2006-10-16 22:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by pistoluser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them how you feel.
2006-10-16 22:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzie_J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry about your inconsiderate family & friends. I dunno when's your birthday. but on my behalf, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! have a HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY :-) :-) :-)
2006-10-16 22:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋