What should I do to stop him or help him find a job?
2006-10-16 15:37:19 · 17 answers · asked by thugz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
trust me it isn't worth dealing with him. there are plenty of jobs out there for him, but he is taking the easy way out. what kind of father can he be if he is in jail for getting caught? you don't need to worry about helping him find a job because he isn't a child. you know this is wrong, that's why you are asking for opinions. but honestly girl, he can't make a career off of hustlin. sooner or later he has to find a legit job. tell him you don't wAnt your child around that environment, that should be a good enough reason.
2006-10-16 15:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi thugz,
Hopefully he doesn't live with you! Think of all the things that could go wrong? What if your child got into the drugs? What if some thugs want to rip him off? What if your child ate some of the drugs? The cops could kick in your door-then both of you would go to jail (even if you donn't sell the drugs-the kid goes to foster care). If he lives there boot him out before anything happens. (If he doesn't live there. What he sells drugs daily for his job?-Earns how much?) When & if he gets a job the state depending on where you live garnishes(spell checker) his check for his amount of chiild support.
If you want to help him-try getting the newspaper have him look for jobs, if your friends know who might be hiring for a job, jobs that are close to home etc. Do you know if he really Looked for work? Did he finish high school? Target--empolyees get 10 0/0 off of everything, has benefits, 401 plan, maybe not good pay but if he's there long enough they do get pay raises, (I have a friend that works there & she has kids she gets discounts on everything), Walmart, most fast food places, mechanics job(working on cars). Take a good LQQk at this situation.
Good luck & have a good day!
2006-10-16 16:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by dousmokedoobies69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like your child's father is making excuses to NOT get a real job. Selling drugs is easy money so to go out and work for someone else in a job where you have rules and obligations is not something that may be appealing to him. The truth is by him choosing this lifestyle he is putting not only himself but you and his child in harms way. You never know if something could go bad. Your child deserves better. Truth is even if you found him a good paying job he probably wouldn't take it. It takes a person the will and desire to change. No one can force someone or guilt someone into changing. He has to want to better himself for you and his child especially! If he continues to lead this lifestyle you should really contemplate how you're going to deal with it.
2006-10-16 15:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selling drugs will make him lots of money, however, when he goes to jail, he won't be making any money.
He is giving you a great excuse. I doubt he has tried all the places that he can. McDonalds will hire ANYONE! Working at an honest job regardless of where it is, or if he is saying "drive around to the window" is not to be ashamed of. He is using this as a great excuse. If he cared about you, and your child then he would work else where, cause, I can promise you he will be caught one day, and then he will be sorry he didn't try harder to find a descent job. You need to let him find his own job, that is somthing that a grown man needs to do for himself.
2006-10-16 15:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to hire him that's such a cop out! So sad! So lazy! Tell him to get a real job and stay away from you and your baby until he can get his act together. He's an adult...what makes you think you have the time with a child or the ability to get him a job if he cant do it himself. Tell him to sell cars or work in finance...he's doing sales and finance right now...hand him the classified ads and close the door!!
2006-10-16 15:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't do anything. He has to help himself. There are jobs out there, but he uses the "No-one will hire me" excuse to stay un-employed (no responsibilty) and hang out selling drugs. It's what he knows best. Best of luck to you and your child, because his next "job" will probably be Prison.
2006-10-16 15:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not see him. You could loose your child if you willing let him be around the child. Sew his a** for child support and make sure he never is allowed around that baby. My friend is in a struggle now where she is battling social services because she continued to allow her babies daddy to see her daughter after he was convicted of a felony drug possesion.
2006-10-16 16:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by mayasmom1204 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him see the error in his way through his own bad decisions, which mat be hard because he is someone you care about. But, while he is in the process of doing something stupid, you should help him by showing him job opportunities that suit him.
Sincerely,
Wise Man
2006-10-16 15:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a real job or else youll just stop his visitation (if your divorced) what is he too good to work a normal job , well when he gets arrested for the drugs or gets killed during a deal what are you gonna do???? but anyway you really know how to pick them dont ya.
2006-10-16 15:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him because selling drugs is bad.
2006-10-16 15:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋