2006-10-16 15:34:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is the breakdown of the American Family and Family values.
Now before you get all cranky, I also think it has very little to do with gay people. The percentage of straight marriages that a broken because someone is gay is pretty small.
It has more to do with people lacking commitment, the ease of divorce (and the lack of stigma), infidelity, selfishness, and other factors.
The right wing claim that it is somehow gay peoples fault is just nutty.
2006-10-16 15:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by arvis3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, gay marriage isn't allowed in most states yet...so most failed marriages are heterosexual. (just kidding). I think it's because people don't really get to know each other first. They go into a dating relationship without ever being friends, and they never truly become friends. You can't tell that person your fears or worries, or interests because you don't think your mate will either be interested, or approve... and you keep them inside because you don't want to ruin your relationship by confiding in them.
When someone hits on you, and you go out...and then you start dating regularly...yes, you do get to know each other, but it's suddenly a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. You're a couple and you have good times, and you fight and make up and all of that, but if you don't build a true friendship before you marry, you won't make it.
If you marry too young, not ONLY have you not become friends, but you WILL mature, and grow apart even farther. When young people marry, it's generally for reasons like pregnancy, or emancipation and not for love. Heck, when young people DATE it's all about how the other person looks, or how much excitement their mate can bring to their lives. All of that changes over years.
2006-10-16 22:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce is easy,and people of course being naturally lazy when it comes to trying to work out the wrinkles in a relationship.
it gets to that ending point also because their is no true friendship,no real understanding of life and love.
also it seems there are many who are very dishonest,manipulative,using for their gain thus it is most natural that their are more in the US than just about everywhere else combined-that is telling!
Perhaps also the so called natural balance isnt really a balance nor natural,perhaps if they had tried an alternative relationship it would have worked.
2006-10-16 23:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are pressured so much to marry (proves they are a real man/woman, unselfish, following parents' wishes, don't want to disappoint friends, etc.), they think they have to the first time they fall in love, so they have only a short courtship. In conservative families, living together (and so on) is forbidden, so there are some pretty unpleasant surprises after they have to actually live with each other.
2006-10-16 23:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people don't take their vows to their spouses seriously. Instead of working on problems they think the best way is to split.
Maybe if people would examine their reasons for marriage and their devotion to a single person BEFORE marriage the divorce rate would be lower.
2006-10-16 22:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stumpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there is bitter disappointment when the happy couple finds out that day to day relationship building is hard work.
Same thing that ends most homosexual relationships as well.
2006-10-16 23:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too easy now days to get a divorce. I've been married over 18 years now, and my parents have been married just over 50. We celebrated their golden anniversary in June. For those who want to work problems out, and are willing to listen to their spouse, marriages can work out.
2006-10-16 22:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by quietwater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of commitment. Everybody thinks that life will be " just peachy" after marriage and it ain't so. Life has a lot of challenges, so does a relationship. You're either a pertnership or your marriage is doomed.
2006-10-17 16:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity, found something better, who knows.
It's not fair to say that most heterosexual marriages fail because the sexual orientation does not matter. People change, sh*t happens, etc.
2006-10-16 22:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people are finding it increasingly difficult to trust and to honor their vows. no one seems to believe in fidelity anymore. people are also marrying for money or because they are getting pregnant too young, and people get married when they barely know their spouses.
2006-10-16 22:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋