first off let me say i know i am an idiot. now to busness. i met this lass on line and she is 16 i am 19. i swear this kid is nuts. she is a little ganster lass who does not seemt o get the point that i dont want to talk to her. i have been talking less and less to her on the phone and she does not seem to understand why. i dont want to come out and tell her to leave me along because i dont want to be seen as an ***. she does many things that bug me, a week or so ago she spent 5 min trying to get my to truthfully say to her "i love you" finaly i learned to shut her up. even worse she humileated me in to talking about things i know better than to talk to a 16 year old about. she even wants me to go down to texas to meet with her and possably have sex...she expects me to drop college and do this...i think not, maby if i actualyy loved her but not got some gangster lass, aint go ing to happy. i need advice to get rid of her with out being too rude. all though not being rud got me in this.
2006-10-16 15:19:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Try having one of your fellow female college mates pick up the phone next time she calls and inform her that you are not into high school girls. Instruct her to say something like "Baby I your little sister is on the phone" or "How sweet so and so told me all about his little girlfriend with the crush on him...looking forward to meeting you sweetie...maybe he and I can take you out for some ice cream and a movie next when we come down for the holidays to his parents" Trust me the Gansta chick will fold like an new born babe...
2006-10-16 15:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, when politeness is not working, I'm sad to say that you have to be rude. Actually, it's called being direct. But it can be seen as rude and it can hurt people's feelings. Then again, if they give you no choice, it's their own fault.
A similar thing happened to me. I don't like being rude to people or hurting them. So when a guy I knew started coming on to me and he knew I was married, but didn't care, I'd be evasive with him. I'd say, "Let's be friends. I'm married. I can't do that. I don't want to talk about that. I'm not going to meet you without my husband nearby!" But no matter what I said, he didn't get the picture. Finally, one day when he called up, I just said, "X, I don't want to talk to you anymore. I've tried to be nice, but the truth is, I don't like you." He just said "fine!" and slammed down the phone. That was 3 years ago and I've never heard from him since. I felt bad about it for a while, but I realized that he brought it on himself.
I think the same applies to your situation. You're going to have to be firm with her and maybe even hurt her feelings to get your point across. It's obvious she's either not smart enough to get it or is taking advantage of your politeness.
2006-10-16 22:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be rude and tell her get lost cuz you don't love her and all you are doing now is playing her along and that isn't right i mean you are going to hurt her anyway so get it over with sooner rather than later.
2006-10-16 22:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by zachsmomsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look whatever answers you get to this question i hope you will choose what sounds rite to you. i think that you should tell her that shes a good person but just not the one for you if you don't like her that much avoid seeing her and if she keeps popping up then tell her you don't want to have a relationship anything above acquittance's. if she still doesn't leave you alone try having more activities to keep you busy and change you phone number or something that would get her to lay off. just tell her shes not the one for you.
2006-10-16 22:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by cinderella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have answered your own question NOT being RUDE got me into this. Maybe being RUDE will get you out of it . I hope that you are not E-Mailing her you know that more people have been charged with soliciting sex with a minor because they thought they had gotten rid of their E-Mails and all she has to do is holler even thou you have done nothing wrong and they will be on you like white on rice GOOD LUCK
2006-10-16 22:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jack C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell he to leave you alone. Who cares if you hurt her feelings, everyone get their feelings hurt. It is part of life. The longer you lead her on the worse it will hurt her. Don't ruin your life for a piece of ***!
2006-10-16 22:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by ANDREA K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would take it slow just come clean with her about it tell her how you feel about this tell her you not interested in her and you think its best to find another guy that's more right for her and i bet she will understand if she cares about you she will understand what your trying to say:)hope this could help ya out
2006-10-16 22:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anissa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to go is to just tell her that you don't think that you have anything in common. Tell her that you are so busy with school that you don't have time to keep up this relationship with her.
2006-10-16 22:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't understand any other way just straight up and tell her that you don't want to talk to her anymore and that she is just too young. she is going to have to understand that. good luck
2006-10-16 22:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by sea 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never get involved with a minor
2006-10-16 22:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋