2006-10-16 15:15:27 · 25 answers · asked by hennyriedmueller 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make him stop cheating on you. He has to want to stop. You didn't do anything wrong. He has the problem, not you. Just try to remember that. I'm sure you still love him, but you deserve much better than that. There are good men out there who wouldn't cheat on you. If you want to give him another chance that's up to you, but if he did it again, I wouldn't stick around. He will end up breaking your heart over and over. I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug. I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-10-16 15:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a tough question to answer, because you did not specify the reason he cheated.
There are several reasons why a husband/wife cheats, not to say they are right by doing it.
Have you ever cheated?
I have been there, done that.
If you email me, I will tell you some reasons what it would do to stop me from cheating.
It would take me all night to write in this block.
Now before I close, it is not only husbands that cheat, there are wives out here in the world that cheat as well.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-16 15:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a proven fact that men that cheat will always cheat.
Your marriage can be repaired but you both have to be willing to repair it. And you both have to be willing to take responsibility for your part of what went wrong.
I have never seen a relationship where one cheated and the other had no fault. People don't typically cheat for no reason. That doesn't make it right but there is a reason.
I believe being faithful is not the only vow that is pledged in a marriage but when it is broke is sure seems to be the only vow that matters. What about honor and cherish. Most people cheat because they don't feel honored or cherished. Like I said it doesn't make it right but everything has to be fixed.... not just one thing... if you want it to work.
2006-10-16 15:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically cheating never stops. I have a younger daughter her husband cheated she left him he begged her back and now 4 years later he is better than ever. She however is still waiting for the next time. She has complete love for him or she would not be there but she would be the first to tell you (A) it breaks the foundation of trust (B) you have to respect yourself and not allow this behavior.........we all get old quickly even when we think we wont. Do not continue to waste your time! And good luck
2006-10-16 15:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know what he wants and needs and give it to him at home without neglecting the children in an effort to give him what he needs. If he needs "sexy," then you better get some nice lingerie or else. If he needs to be beaten raw, then send the kids over to grandma's and beat him raw. If his wants and needs are unreal, outrageous or dangerous or one sided, you won't lower your morals or values and he will continue to cheat. If you can't take the cheating, leave. But the children come first. You come second. He comes third.
Meanwhile, call a women's health group and get some counseling to find out what is wrong with you that you "still love him - you think."
2006-10-16 15:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple "Divorce his *** and love him from a distance". That way there if he does cheat at least you made it so that he isn't cheating on you (he'll be the next woman dumb enough to take him on) and you can still love him with out the baggage or humiliation. Personally I would move on and find some self esteem..but hey it's your life right?
2006-10-16 15:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating on you, he does not love you. It sounds like you are not sure either considering what you said, which to me indicates that you are not truly in love with him. If you were, you would know it beyond a doubt. It is time to divorce this man and move on--don't think you can change him, because you can't.
2006-10-16 15:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the best indicator of the future. If you stay with him, he will probably cheat on you again. If you can handle that kind of pain stay. If you don't want to be hurt, leave him. He obviously doesn't love you the way you love him, if he is the one cheating on you.
2006-10-16 15:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater...always a cheater in the sense that you will never trust him again. Think long and hard about that. Why invest in a relationship that is so one-sided. You deserve better than that.
2006-10-16 15:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone do what they dont want too. Regardless of what you say or do... They will do it on there own. You totally need to move on.... Find someone that will respect you, and not cheat on you.
2006-10-16 15:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋