i was bord so i was checkin myspaces, and my guy friend (Bob) which isn't his real name. well i was looking at his profile and he had this guy on his top friend list, i clicked on the guy and i saw these comments that he left, they said things like i love u, and stuff like that. then i went to the guys pics and Bob commented them on how he thought he was hott. then i called my friend b/c she likes Bob alot, and she talked to him, after she was done talking 2 him, Bob deleted the guy from the friends list, and he deleted the pic comments.
2006-10-16 14:45:58 · 27 answers · asked by t h 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
k, so if he is gay, its ok
2006-10-18 15:04:52 · update #1
ask Bob.
2006-10-16 14:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they might have been joking around. my brothers often with tell a guy "he's hot" just to mess with him. They get really silly sometimes. And they are all happily married to great women and completely straight.
The important thing here is - how would you feel if he was? would you still be his friend? If the answer's no then you haven't chosen to be his friend for his personality and how well you get along, you're his friend only for selfish reasons (for example if he's got a car and you don't)
If the answer is yes, you would still be his friend, then good for you. But if you would still accept him then I would let it go and not even worry about it. If he is or isn't that's his choice. And it doesn't change the kind of person he is. If he is, when he's ready to talk about it he will. Until then - just be cool and hang out with him no matter what.
2006-10-16 21:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be or he was just playing games with this online fellow.
Both you and your lady friend should have ignored what you saw altogether. You embarrassed Bob. He might not have meant anything sexual towards this other guy whatsoever. And even if he did mean something, it was none of your business.
When you are adolescents, you have to be very careful how you treat a friend's blossoming sexuality. Bob needs no labels right now. Never mention what you saw again. Adult lives have been ruined by how people were treated in adolescence.
2006-10-17 00:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good possibility, that he is attracted to other men, and thought myspace would be a safe place to meet other guys discreetly. It wasn't very nice to call a friend and point out that he must be gay because of something he had on myspace, because now she has apparently 'accused' him of it as well. All it's done is caused him to feel shame, as evidenced by him taking down the references to the guy. He isn't going to be your friend much longer if you cause him to feel uncomfortable, instead of being supportive.
You could have simply agreed with him, that yeah, that guy IS pretty hot, and left it at that, without making him feel bad abut himself. If he felt comfortable with you as a friend, perhaps at that point he might have said that he's into guys. But now he'll feel like you are judging him.
2006-10-16 21:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by f117a_twinturbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hy hons daviie and steeviie hons gay boyfriends and if what you are telling us is true and and your friend bobby here, is runing around saying he loves another man(kool- bobby love it) and hes runing , a round saying this other guy is hot, and bobby delites his [picture, and hides kit from you, and his comments yeah you can safely say hes gay-- so like are you goona toss him out a 22 story window and yell out have a nice landing?/ if you cant acept the fact that he is gay and you go of the wall, then just tell him sorie dude iam hiting the highways here, then do it, too us theres nothing wrong if your friend bob is gay we would accept him as a friend, so should you but hey thats your choice.
2006-10-16 21:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes He is,And That was wrong of you for gossipping like that to the girl that liked him!I hope you know you ruined your friendship with this friend for life!even if he does not find out what a snoop and Gossipper you are,You will never be able to be the same to him,because you betraded him as a friend!Shame on you!Hollywood
2006-10-16 21:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ´d say he is gay, and I think it´s natural to be worried because your friend likes Bob and she has the right to know if he is bi or gay.
2006-10-16 21:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sometimes difficult to know if your friend is gay.
For example, I have never been sure if one of my friends is gay. Sometimes when he is felating me, he has this cheesy expression on his face like the guy on Will and Grace. In life, people dont always spell these things out.
2006-10-16 21:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes "Bob" is either gay or bisexual and was probably embarassed. Give him time he will come around. Just be his friend.
2006-10-16 22:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter if he is gay or not? I shouldn't. He is probably still young and trying to figure things out. Just be his friend no matter what.
2006-10-16 21:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some Chic's think the sensitive guys are hot, so maybe Bob is trying to attract women that will try to convince him that he should fly straight. and there you go messing all that up..
shame on you jealous friend, you should try it sometimes and see how many women try to save you from your wicked ways...
2006-10-16 21:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by dee-dee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋