he is emailing some women and they are responding
2006-10-16 14:42:49 · 16 answers · asked by Sweet P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the easy way to find out is to notice their face buried in his lap
2006-10-17 02:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, there are so many ways to find out who your husband may be cheating with but you really have to be coniving and do your research. In the past you could have mistaken me for a pprivate eye. LOL.
Like some people stated before me...check the emails, check his cell phone bill records, etc.
But here's the thing! As a fellow cheated on spouse to another...finding out who he's cheating with truly isn't the important thing here. Sometimes we as spouses have this insatiable desire to find out everything we possibly can when it comes to our spouse cheating but it truly doesn't help the situation and can in fact make it worst!
Your husband has commited adultry and that's the main issue. Focus your attention on what you are going to do now! Figure out your Plan B even though you may not have one rather than figuring out who he's cheating with!
At a time like this you are very hurt and vounerable...you need to look to the future and not so much the past! Give yourself time to grieve and come to terms with what has happened but don't allow him to weasel back into your life if you decide to let him go. Trust me...he could do it again and you don't need someone like that in your life! Trust yourself to make the right decision!
Best of luck and remember: it's NOT your fault any of this happened!
2006-10-16 23:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be fooling around through email?
If he is actuallly meeting with these women then you could follow him.
Either way you need to let him know this behavior won't be tolerated. You either want him to work on fixing whatever is wrong in the marriage so the two of you can be happy together or you want him to move out.
If you tolerate this it will only get worse.
2006-10-16 22:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having dealt with my wife's affair, I can understand your need to know. The truth however is a double edged sword, you may want to know, but the details can kill you.
There is spy-ware available for computers, some of it very good and almost undetectable. Search for Spector Soft....it will run you about a hundred dollars. That is still cheaper than a private investigator.
I would suggest to you that he is involved or at least starting emotional affairs. Hopefully you can confront him with evidence before they become physical.
Good luck, and I am sorry you find yourself in this situation, it hurts like hell.
2006-10-16 21:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a show called Cheaters and they investigate husbands and spouses to find out if they are cheating or not. It is free if your case qualifies and they will follow your husband around and check his Internet files and e-mails for you to find out if he is indeed cheating.You can go to there website at
www.cheaters.com
Hope you find out the truth hang in there hunny Good Luck!
2006-10-16 21:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cathleen Spencer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. That does not mean he is fooling around. Most likely he will lie to you about anything unless you make him feel secure that you will not leave him no matter what he is doing.
2006-10-16 21:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the emails, and if he has a cellphone, check the phone records.
2006-10-16 21:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would e mail them find out what is going on, get evidence so in your mind you will be sure when you file for divorce.act like you are him when you e mail them.cheaters never change, it begins with a thought in their minds, and thinking determines how we feel, our feelings determine our decisions. cheating begins in their minds, has nothing to do with circumstances. he just has no character. than when you are sure he has cheated on you, file for divorce, don't let him disrespect you like this, besides who wants to go through a lifetime of hurt, if you have to fight other's for his love than he really isn't worth having.
2006-10-16 21:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, pack his sh** and tell him to go stay with whoever he is fooling around with. It does not matter who she is what matters is that he is being unfaithful.
2006-10-16 21:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow him when he leaves the house.
2006-10-16 22:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋