My sons girlfriend gave him the methadone, and money to get the cocain that killed him...?

Question

Should I try to have her prosicuted, He Loved her very much..What should I do ? The police moreless washed their hands of it...

Answer 1

Let me start by saying how very sorry I am.

I could tell you that you have some legal obligation to tell the police information that they don,t already know,and that you probably could push this matter to have this girl prosecuted but you sound as if there is something that is stopping you from doing just that.
Were you aware of your sons drug problem (if there was a history of one) and maybe you know this girl and have some sort of relationship with her that's preventing you from going further with this case.
I may be way off but do you feel you owe this girl something ?
Do feel somehow feel responsibility for this?
Please do not think for a minute that I,m trying to say that you are,I,m asking if you have emotions along the line of guilt for something.
As a parent I,m trying to put myself in your shoes but its hard without all the facts about your son and his girlfriend.
I,m sorry that I could not tell you yes or no. It just seems that their is so much emotion behind your question.
Emotion other than the death of your son.
God forgive me but I feel like this is coming out all wrong and I certainly don,t mean to be anything but sympathetic.

Edit... I think twister has a good point of view.

Answer 2

ok i understand where some people are saying no one forced him to take it...which is true..and unfortunately this one particular lesson in life cost his own life...and that is a damn shame...and now is not the time to put any blame on you..I;m sure you've done that yourself....and you'll probably need a support group to get you through the anger and grieving that needs to be done...talk talk talk it out!...write it out anything to get it out....now about the police...how could they wash their hands of it?!..she was an accessory to the fact....first of all methadone is illegal if it's not given to the person it's supposed to be prescribed to..so right there is illegal...money..well that means nothing...he could have chosen to do something good with it instead of what he chose to do...and by the way...you can be very mad at him right now....that's ok to do...you're not abandoning him by any means by doing that...you are human and that's a very human response....besides as mad as you are...you have to have the hope that he is now at peace even though he is not with you and it is not fair..and if you believe in God you can be mad at HIM too...you don't end up in Hell!...now back to the legal stuff...she should be prosecuted to some means...as an accessory...at the very least a couple of years of probation..community time...forced AA/NA attendance and random urine tests...if your son loved her very much like you say...then he would want whats best for her...and these drugs out there are so addictive that they can't help themselves (which is no excuse really but it is what it is)...so by doing this she will get the help she needs and not do it to anyone else...think of how many lives your son's death could affect in a positive way for the people left behind?!....if the police don't want to get involved park your butt at the Court House and demand to see the District Attorney....you pay his/her paycheck with your taxes....or ask the State Police too..if the townies won't get involved....good luck

Answer 3

Those are serious charges, and probably difficult to prove.
Also you could be in denial about your son's involvement. People usually take cocaine voluntarily, even welcome it. Many people have abused drugs, some have died. Maybe she's not the villain, but merely the survivor. Please accept my condolences on the death of your beloved son. But going on a vendetta against his girlfriend will not solve the problem. I'd suggest getting involved with some life-affirming program to help others who are still alive. Or join with other parents of dead youth to heal all your pain and try to make things better.

Answer 4

This is definitely one of those situations that I would definitely pray about. No one can tell you an "absolute" on this very very personal matter. If you have a member of the clergy whose thoughts you highly value I would confide in Him, primarily to seek support through prayer. Prayer is a very powerful weapon which is not only used to seek guidance, but also a sense of peace until the matter has been resolved.

Answer 5

Sorry about your loss.

The police need to be involved in this. At the very least, if the gf was involved in a fatal accident. Even without retribution for your son's death, she needs to be stopped from dying herself or taking someone else down with her.

Answer 6

You can be sure they each had a role in their sick relationship. I'm not sure what you could prosecute her for - maybe the methedone, but definitely not for giving him money. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but if you put all the blame on her out of grief and anger and she ends up committing suicide, you won't want that on your conscience.

Answer 7

But she did not do what probably would be considered illegal. Nor was force used. Are you sure you are not looking for a scapegoat? Anyway, it sounds more like a civil than a criminal matter, excepting the actual possession, transfer and any sales.

Answer 8

I would do it if I were you. Not only because she is partially guilty for it but because she also needs help. Maybe spending some time away will make her change and see what is wrong in her life and maybe save her own life. Why would we let these kids do whatever they want with their lives before our own eyes? It's up to us to DO something. They are not psychologically able to realize what is good for them But WE adults are. So let's Do something for them.

Answer 9

Did she hold a gun to his head while he did it? I'm sorry that it happened but that sort of reasoning says that if I shoot myself than the people who made the gun are liable.

Answer 10

So, you did not teach your son why he should not do drugs and you want someone else to be responsible for it. Sorry, you need to take the blame.