Lets say your 13 years old and had a 15 month old and were pregnant with your 2nd, you and your bf are close and love each other alot, hes the father of your 1st child and this one, what would you do, lets leave it at 1.5 month pregnant??
2006-10-16 14:10:20 · 15 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What would I do about what??? I wouldnt have been making babies at 13
2006-10-16 14:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to get a lot of nasty answers for this one. No one thinks a 13 year old should be pregnant, let alone pregnant with their second child. I really think your parents should have gotten you on birth control after the first one. That being said, you are too young to be in a commited relationship. If your boyfriend is close to the same age as you, he cannot support you for another 4 or five years at least. Who is paying for your child now? Honey, I really don't understand why you would want to do this again? What do your parents say? What do this boy's parents say? This is a really bad situation. If there is some way possible for this to work, it will take a miracle. Please, stop having babies! You two are still babies yourself. I had a child when I was 16 and he is a year older than you, now. I couldn't imagine if he told me I was going to be a grandmother at 30! I would be so sad. I hope I don't sound too hard on you. I know this is a very hard time. If you need someone to talk to, instant message me or email me. You are going to need a lot of support.
2006-10-16 14:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Patty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a father of two daughters speaking here. Remember, I also met my wife when she was 15, and I was 16, and we've been either dating or married ever since (so I understand both sides):
I would've put the first baby up for adoption. I would put the second baby up for adoption. I would've had my daughter taken in for birth control shots. I would've shot the boyfriend.
There is no way that a 13 year old... or a 15 year old... is able to take care of themselves, much less take care of TWO babies and live on the babies daddy's income. There is no way that this can be a healthy thing if the grandparents take care of the kids, or adopt them as their own.
As the Patti Smyth & Don Henley song goes, sometimes love just ain't enough. Love dies pretty quick when there is no food, when the heat is turned off, and when there is no place to live. Love isn't enough to raise kids -- they need parents mature enough to make wise decisions, and to be adults themselves. This all sounds cruel, and I know I'll get flagged for saying all of this, but those of us who've been married for 25 years (and dating 3 before that) know what I'm talking about.
2006-10-16 14:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by geek49203 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh my that means when this "13 year old" had the first she was 12!! I really think that at least she has made a decision to have the baby, which is great! However, at the age of 13 it takes a lot of maturity, responsibility, and organization to become a great parent. Don't get me wrong its NOT impossible just a little harder to achieve. I wish I can give more advice, but I am just a little stunned at the fact that a 13 year old is going to have 2 children under the age of 2 years old.
2006-10-16 14:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lil3120 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know where your coming from I was 15 When i had my first and 20 when I had my second ...
I did have an abortion when I was 16 ... there was no way I could handle another baby at that time....
But do u know what ur getting into???
You will really have to screw your head on and work hard !!
Are you sure thats what you want ?
It is really your own choice , But please think about the added responsability you will have! And if you think it is at all hard now you will have a rude awakening with a second baby!
Wish you all the best
P.S I am still with my Daughters father and we couldnt be happier!
But he has worked his @SS off to provide for his family , will your man do the same ?
2006-10-16 14:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you and your boy Friend not want to have a life you are to young you haven't enjoyed your life yet and your boy Friend will probably take off soon to start living his me and my wife's only mistake was having kids to early and not having done some of the fun things that we would of liked to of done before starting a family and it does put so much pressure on your relationship not to be able to do all the things you hoped to do as you have at least 16 to 18 years before you can pick up on what you wanted to do and the more kids you have the time starts all over again so im not one for abortion but at your age i would do it and please start taking the pill or use contraception
2006-10-16 14:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its called birth control pills. i shure hope you pay for your kids and not the state. not trying to be rude but. you are not setting a good example for your kids when they get older.do you have a good paying job or career? do you got your own place? you should show these kinds of responsibilties first. too late thought. all i can say is try aqnd be the best parent you can. **** luck.
2006-10-16 14:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by owned by a siberian husky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to ask. Where is this 13 year olds mom and dad. And how old is the dad of these babies??
2006-10-16 14:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Justaskingquestions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are having to go through this at such a young age.
I'm 28 with three kids and its hard so I can't even imagine what you are going through. Do you have your parents support? God Bless you hon.
2006-10-16 14:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by bzas1girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn...and i thought having a baby at 18 was young
2006-10-16 14:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋