My husband has never asked me to do such a thing, but honestly, I cant help but wonder sometimes. I know it would make him unbelievably hot to witness me with another woman, and I think it might actually be fun for me too. I mean, the only man I have and ever will be with is my husband. The whole new-ness, exciting feeling can never really be felt again. But with a woman, it would be TOTALLY new, ok with my husband, and possibly very exciting for me. Whenever I do something sexual for him, even its its not directly pleasing to me, just seeing his pleasure gets me sooo hot. Has anyone ever tried this? pointers? experiences?
2006-10-16 13:54:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds more like you would be doing it for you...and why not? Tell hubby what YOU would like, i.e to be with a woman and him watching and see if he would want to accomodate your desire to do so. Its about you too baby, not just HIM> Go for it, making love with a woman? You will love it if you pick the right woman...
2006-10-16 13:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds that you want to do it for the right reason which is for you AND him not just for him. You have to remember that this could cause a lot of jealousy no matter how stable your relationship is. What happens if he loves it and you end up not liking it at all? What if you do like it but he wants to do it way more than you're up for? Would you rather do it with someone you both know well or just someone you know well? These are some things that you have to ask yourself and consider. I would first think about those things and make sure you are totally ready then I would mention it to him and just see what he says. If he seems up for it (which he probably will) then go for it. It might be a little easier for everyone involved if you have a few drinks before anything goes down. I'm not saying to get totally drunk or anything but having a few will help loosen every one up.
Oh one more VERY important thing I forgot to mention. Are you going to let your husband do things with the woman or will it just be strictly you and the woman and him watching? You have to make it clear to your husband what you do and don't feel comfortable with or else you could end up in a situation that might hurt feelings and stuff.
2006-10-16 14:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not married but i am in a relationship and last year around this time, my bf and i both became distant with one another. I became friends with a guy i met on myspace and he became friendlier with one of his co-workers. I never cheated physically but emotionally i was, and i think he did too. We finally verbalized that there was a connection we felt with the other person. We decided to lose contact with the other people and now were doing wonderful. Your husband felt an atrraction, which is ok, its normal, it happens. Then he found out she felt one back. This is where he should have told you, so that you two could have worked around it. Yet he went further and began textign her. its painful but its a crush and he's feeling it because he's not getting something from you, that he's getting from her. Go talk to him about it. Ask him why he think he may like her. Encourage him to talk to you without you being mean or judgemental. Him crying shows he does still love you, but he's pron just confused. You're married, when one person is down, you should help pick him up. You want to make this about you because you're the one being betrayed, but if you dont take the time to make it about him and put your feelings aside then you will lose him and it honestly does not have to be that way. This is totally fixable. Work it out please!!
2016-05-22 07:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. But, you consider a woman hot, but another man a no-no? Why? The only way you consider it cheating is with a penis? That's a little insulting to think that sex with a woman is not as fulfilling or on the same level as sex with a man. Or that your husband would be okay with a woman because she isn't a threat, but another man may "mark his territory"? And ignore the self-righteous close-minded idiots out there. Be careful though. Evaluate carefully how you would feel about this, and how your husband would feel. Newness is hot, but you have to plan the aftermath.
2006-10-16 14:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by flamedancer_26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt call my relationship with another woman a game, or something to please someone else. what decent man would wan
t to chance a good and perhaps rewarding relationship on the ri
sky sex play of seeing another woman make Love to my wife? An
d more unrealistic, He wants to be apart of this unstable so called
game. Did you stop to think that your wife might fall in Love with
this woman, and might not want to give Her up in the end? And if
this woman treat Her better than you, you may find that youi will s
oon be out of the picture? Bottom line, is it worth it?
2006-10-16 14:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very kinky and quite a spice up for your relationship. I think you have some hidden fantasies about being with another woman as well, but your morals keep you steadfastly faithful. I think that you should proceed with caution. What if your husband becomes very attracted to this new woman? Would you be hurt? What if you find out that you are really a lesbian? Does that change everything. Be careful, you wouldnt want to get burned by your own inferno.
2006-10-16 14:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its a phase..it will get old...because just as you had a first kiss and a first date..those .."first" exciting feelings will pass too. Its better to have a couple to work with so its fair for both you and your husband and its set in situation where its less likely to cause jealousy on either side. I am sure you would both enjoy it but once you have done that..you will just be looking for something new to get involved into...but understand...thats a good thing..You are doing what you need to do to keep the excitement alive in your marriage..If you do exciting things together and work together you will have a good strong marriage.
2006-10-16 14:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No! My hubby is all I need and I don't like women in that sense, women are beautiful but I do not want one touching my body anywhere, I only need my hubby. And if I were not married, I still would only want a man....... I like the rough touch of a man and what a man can do.......!
2006-10-16 14:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Always 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not? If you think you'll enjoy it and seeing as your husband is male we know he will, LOL. Go for it. Just be safe and make sure the other woman is someone you can trust. If there is jelousy or anything that will make you uncomftorable, it will be awful!
2006-10-16 13:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by ~mj~ 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I highly recomend it and practice such things in my own relationship. It has made all the difference in the world.
2006-10-16 14:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kimma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋