why do you stay with your spouse when you have separate bedrooms?
My wife and I have not done anything in 8+ years, but yet she will not go to counselling.
confused in el paso
2006-10-16 13:53:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a comfort zone. Outside that door it's scary. Without intimacy a marriage truely cannot survive. You have to ask yourself do I want to live this way the rest of my life??? If you are young or even an older person - life is too short not to have happiness and love in your life.
2006-10-16 13:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow u got the same prob as me. My man sleeps on the couch and only slept with me 3 times last year.I think we stay beacuse of the comfort zone and the cost of divorce and cost of breaking up. It seems so troublesome and then u have to start the dating proocess all over again. I don't know why my man won't get cousling wither i begged him for years but nothing. finally i said fine i am living my own life without u i will stay marriend for are child sake but i will not be ur toy anymore. i aint looking for love so this works for me but if i ever decide to i guess the divorce will have to happen.Also some peeps don't want to admit there is a problem which sucks for there partner. i feel ur pain and ur not alone.maybe u can ask to end it mutally stay friends that way the idea of divorce wont sound so overwhelming. but u living a life without passion is unfair to u . good luck
2006-10-16 14:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try going to counseling by yourself and see what happens. This may show her that you are serious about trying to save your marriage. On the flip side of things do you want to continue on in a marriage that is going no where? It seems like you have some big decisions to make and do it before it is to late. Best of luck and I hope no matter what happens you will be happy in the end.
2006-10-16 14:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to give her an choice. Try romancing her like you first met her. Explain to her that you have needs as a husband. If she refuses, then you set up the counseling. If she refuses to go with her, go without her. Maybe she'll become interested. If none else fails you have have to consider separation.
2006-10-16 13:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good, I find it hard to believe that after all that time you don't know what the problem could be though. If she won't go to counseling, go on your own maybe she will eventually follow your lead.
2006-10-16 13:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she give up her nice house just because you treated her like garbage, cheated on her multiple time (read your other questions) and she fell out of love with you. Where do you expect her to go after all these years? Besides this way she has health coverage.
2006-10-16 14:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, If I was in your shoes I would start to date again. I bet if you started to bring them home (your dates) you will get some type of response.
I know some are thinking that I am trying to be funny, but I am very serious. Go on with your life.
2006-10-16 13:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still there with her? It sounds as though you both may find seperation too risky in one form or another; financially or socially. Maybe you should ask her what she wants from the marriage and decide if you want the same thing.
2006-10-16 13:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am up 1 year on you i told my husband if he did not want to do anything with me i would find some new a did i still love my husband but not in love with if hope all is well soon
2006-10-16 14:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by rradboys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would talk it over with her before i made any decisions, let her know how you feel, and ask her what can be done to make the relationship better. go to counciling, do whatever it takes before you give up on her.
2006-10-16 14:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋