I love my wife, we have 9+ years of marriage, she have a son. from other relationship. When we got married he was 10 years old, now he is 19. One time he told me in his innocense: i ask my mom why she got married with you? then she told him: for you, i married him for you, for your future because he can immigrate us to the USA. Now after 9+ years of marriage, last week they immigrate to the USA. Now she dont talk to me, she dont pay attention to me, and i say: why? why? why she used me? What i think is maybe she is doing it to make me be tired of her and get divorce. Im very sad right now my friends, im crying, tell me what to do please. Now i still love her and is very hard for me to get divorce. What do you suggest?
2006-10-16 13:49:30 · 12 answers · asked by El guapo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce her.
If the two of you divorce, I believe her greencard will expire.
You don't need to be with someone who used you. You should've seen that coming when the son told you.
Leave her before she breaks your heart anymore. If she's not talking to you, she's not worth your time.
If you want to get revenge, go to divorce court and explain how she used you for her own selfish purposes.
2006-10-16 13:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to confront her and her if it was true. If it's not then maybe you can work on whatever other issues might be bothering either of you. If it is true, then unfortunately you need to put your chin up and chalk it up a life experience. You're wouldn't be the first person who has been used and you won't be the last. You need to learn from this experience and start over. If you get to angry and want to lash out, try to understand her side of things. It is never right to use people, but some people weren't taught that and would do anything to get themselves and their children out of a bad situation. You'll get through this. Keep your friends and family around to comfort you and keep you busy. Good luck.
2006-10-16 16:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years is a long time being together. That is special. Maybe you are way off. Help her to open up without fear you will go crazy on her. 10 years is a long time, I think she would have said or done something before this if she really wanted out. Everyone has their weak moments, maybe she is having hers. Calm down and comfort her, have a quiet time with her, her special food. I believe love never dies , it just changes. I hope you both change together for your 11 year together~
2006-10-16 14:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All she wanted was papers. She didnt think about you. It is all about her and her son. She played you like a fool. DOes she already have her paprers if she doesent I would call immigration on her @$$ or find a way to get rid of her documents. YOu dont deserve to be treated that way for a women to use you for her own mission and benefit.
2006-10-16 13:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but this is very common. I worked with a girl who was from russia and married a guy from the US to get her visa green card now they sleep in separate rooms and she cheats on him. I know what you feel like,but you need to move on and learn from this. You need to divorce her. She is not good enough for you. Its girls like this that give woman a bad name and I am apalled that she did this. You seem like a nice guy. Good luck to you and my prayers are with you
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2006-10-16 14:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give her a divorce she cant have a divorce if you wont consent
2006-10-16 13:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your marriage like before you found out? If it wasn't good, then get counselling. If it was good, then you should also get counselling.
2006-10-16 13:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she needed a free pass and she got it from you im sorry because this happened to my sister
2006-10-16 13:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋