Have u ever thought you found the 1 but in the end they really werent?

Question

What made you know at the beggening they were the one, and what happend to make u realize that they werent...

Answer 1

I think in any relationship you think the other is the one mainly because it's the present moment. If you notice, you feel that way in every relationship. Just take things slow and get to know one another.

Answer 2

I suppose I was weak to someone like her,astonishingly beautiful,intelligent,articulate,
adventurous,passionate beyond words,and
I thought a true blue friend.
You see it had been many years since the last Siren
had caused my lil' boat to crash upon the rocks,
I thought I was aware or least more so of such
gold digging ways,I was wrong.
It was 2 wks before the wedding she came to me
in the study and suggested I put her name on all of
my propertieS I cap the S and for a reason I asked her do you mean plural oh yes she said and named all that either
I owned out right or even had a % in.
So let me get this straight you want your name on all of
this before we wed,and because you want to feel safe in
this relationship even though it is I who need comfort since
YOU are the one (then she was 38 y.o.) who has been
married 7 times in 20 yrs.
Its over you re just another gold digger!
Ive not dated since that was aug. 93.

Answer 3

Yes. I found my soulmate. He was on the same wavelength as me. He was unlike any man I'd ever met. He was so sensitive, romantic, passionate, intense. He was the only man I ever saw cry. I'd never felt so completely loved and needed. I thought he was the one. He said I was the one. He'd been in love with me for 2 years before we dated. We worked together & I had another boyfriend at the time. When I was leaving my boyfriend, a coworker told me that he'd had a crush on me for years. It made me look at him differently & when I got to know him I realized how much we had in common. Misery loves company. We had the same negative views on our jobs, lives, people etc. We clicked.

Our relationship was very passionate, but turbulent. He was so emotionally fragile & unfortunately (as it turned out) was an alcoholic. He couldn't deal with his strong emotions & chose to drown them out with alcohol. Although he loved me, he didn't love himself enough. He let the alcohol destroy him. I tried to save him & realized I couldn't. He was dragging me down with him. So I had to leave but it was very hard to do.

He passed away recently. I will always miss him & always love him. I still think he was my soulmate. He was like a darker, more disturbed version of me. I have sadness too, but not to the degree that he had (he'd had a very painful life, both of his parents were alcoholic & both had died from it). & I had healthy outlets (art, music etc) for my feelings. He just turned to alcohol and it destroyed him.

I think you know you've found "the one" when you're on the same wavelength & feel a strong chemistry. When you're best friends & great lovers. Most importantly when you make each other better people. You should never feel that you need them or that they need you (codependency is very addictive & feels a lot like love but is very unhealthy). Certainly if they have issues with self-esteem & particularly substance abuse, be very careful.

If you have become the person you're meant to be (happy & love yourself) then you are more likely to meet the person you're meant to be with. You'll know. Just be honest with yourself. Sometimes our judgment can be clouded by a new relationship. Everything seems magical. A lot of things (infatuation, lust, sympathy, neediness) can feel like love. Love shouldn't cause you pain. Love should make you happy & able to be who you are.

Recently I've met someone wonderful. He has a lot in common with me, a fellow singer/songwriter, fellow Taurus, he's sensitive, passionate, funny, intelligent. He's a very happy, confident, positive person. He's able to be strong & sensitive. I still have some issues which he's been helping me with. He appreciates who I am & inspires me to be a better person. He could be "the one." I don't want to get my hopes up too high but so far so good...He said he knew the moment he met me, by the passion in my eyes that I was a tremendous "being" that he wanted to get to know. I felt an instant chemistry with him as well. He's an extraordinary man & I admire him so much. The great thing is that he feels the same way about me. So we are equals. Usually my relationships were unbalanced so this is new to me. A healthy relationship. Maybe because I'm liking myself more now than I ever have. I've become a stronger person & made a lot of positive changes in my life (new home, new community, becoming more involved in the arts). I met my boyfriend at a bar where we were both singing & playing guitar.

Follow your bliss & the right person will appear!

Answer 4

Yes... unfortunately, yes. I thought, "this is the one", for 6 years............................ turns out, nope.... sooooo not the one ! In the beginning, everything was great.. very few "ups & downs", and seemed to be a lot of love. In the end... a lot of ignoring, distance, and just lack of love. (on the other's behalf) Turned out to be the biggest waste of the past 6 years of my life. If this is happening to you.... i'm sorry. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

i felt he was the one with all my heart mind and soul......we were together for 5 yrs and then i got pregnant and lost the baby.....it didnt bother him as much as it bothered me ...i knew i always wanted kids.....he already had 2 and didnt...that was when i decided maybe he wasnt the one......kids were a priority in my life and not his.....yes we talked about it .......having a family together but until it actually happened did u see thats not ever what he really wanted.....he will always have a place in my heart......hes just not the one....

Answer 6

In the beginning, there was nothing but chemistry and a clean slate. In the end, it was just biology and a dirty plate.

Answer 7

Hahahahaha, yep...been there done that and got the t-shirt! Can't really tell ya what made me think he was the one but I can tell ya what made me realize he wasn't....I grew up! LOL

Answer 8

Yeah!!!
It happens to a lot of people. I think it's good life lesson. So if you do meet someone and they are the "one" then you'll know it and appreciate it.

Answer 9

well in the begining it seemed so promising. everything was working out right. but then everything just fell apart and the real him came out and people got involved. was ng

Answer 10

i always had high hopes in the beginining and just built them up ... only when it was the one did i have that true sense of self that he was it ....

usually what made me realize they weren't were little things they did and/or how they made me feel ...