I just found out that my oldest niece, who is almost 20, is pregnant. She's going to be getting married in two months. Meanwhile, my husband and I have been trying for a baby for over two years, and...no luck.
I'm thrilled that I'm going to be a great-aunt (though I feel I'm too young for it, I'm only in my mid-twenties), and I think it's hilarious that my sister is going to be a grandma.
It's just the fact that I don't feel that my niece is emotionally prepared for the shock of having a baby...and I have been for quite some time.
So how do I get past it? I hate being jealous, and I hate feeling guilty about it even more.
I know this is stupid...but please, be nice! Any advice would be wonderful.
2006-10-16 13:35:36 · 3 answers · asked by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oops, I meant that my niece is NOT emotionally prepared.
2006-10-16 13:36:13 · update #1
My daughter felt this same way........no fair...I want a child & they didn't plan it & it was easy for them why not me. I just had to tell her to enjoy the time she is having with her husband, as you will never have that alone time for a very long time once you have a baby. If she would just relax & not be so stressed & upset about not being pregnant....it will come much easier. And you know what? It happened not too long after that.......she wanted to control this & it not going as she planned was driving her crazy. Now she has a beautiful baby girl this year & those feelings of jealousy have vanished, as they should have a long time ago.
Also, have you been to a doctor regarding you & your husbands fertility? If that is ruled out & there isn't a problem...just relax & enjoy each other & it will happen.
2006-10-16 13:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal reaction, especially when you have been trying to have a baby for two years. Have you seen any specialist to find out why you haven't conceived? If not, why don't you? Maybe you aren't timing it right, or maybe it just isn't your time yet. I say go to the doctor and make sure that both you and your husband are ok. If everything is fine, try one of those over the counter ovulation kits and see if that helps. But please don't criticize your niece just because you are jealous.
2006-10-16 21:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best advice I've heard regarding this is to stop trying. Sometimes the anticipation of trying can be stressful, and your body will hold off on pregnancy if you are stressed. Have patience, and nobody can tell you how to get over your jealousy. Just don'tprioritize it over your niece's hapiness (which it sounds like you are aware of. ) And BTW, Hi Farkas!
2006-10-20 18:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋