WHY did you/would you get married?

Question

This is not an attack on marriage. I am married myself.

My real question is, what motivates people to get married? And dont just say "love", I'm looking for deeper answers. In our society, many people live together just like they are married. Marriage becomes just a piece of paper. What made you choose to make it legal and have a ceremony, as opposed to just having the lifestyle of a married couple without the paperwork?

Answer 1

Usually because it's "expected" or pressure from the bride.

I'll never do it, and 90% of my friends that have are no longer happy.

I say if you formalize it, it takes pressure off of the partners to keep each other happy. Better to not marry and just switch if the other partner starts to get on your nerves.

Answer 2

The reasons i got married to my husband is i knew he was the one i wanted to be with for the rest of my life, he is good with my child from another relationship, and good with our child. I believe that the reason people don't get married and think it just a peace of paper is b/c #1 if the relationship doesn't work they can walk instead of talk #2 marriage is expensive #3 divorce is expensive and #4 society lets it

Answer 3

Well, marriage is a certified and agreed sworn relationship that they will not leave each other. It is certified socially and bonded with a personalized believe. Like, the girl asks the boy to promise that he won't leave her. Its just a promise in a bigger and better scale. Involving the government and the creator, and the believe, and they are bonded together. There would have to be witnesses who would certify that they are promised to be with each other.

Not that they don't trust each other, it's like the record, that would have to be taken. There are a lot and lot importance of marriage, socially economically, spiritually. I can tell you about a number of problems that is caused by the people who have sex before marriage and without marriage. And these are not avoidable. If you want more details you can contact me, you'll find my contact addresses in the address below.

Answer 4

Companionship, someone to make you laugh, cry with you, and be there for you when you need them...basically a best friend. When i married the first time, I did it because my family is old timey and I wanted the whole shin dig...church, dress, reception, honeymoon, etc...but now after 5 years of marriage to that man, I am divorced and dating the most amazing man ever...we've talked about marriage, but it scares me to death now...I think Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell had it right lol...just live together...that way if things dont work out it's a lot cheaper to get out of the relationship lol..although marriage today is a lawyer's job security rofl.

Answer 5

The fantasy that was ever-present since childhood.

Needing someone or something more than self.

Religion teaching that sex before or outside of marriage is a sin so therefore marriage was the next/only option.

The only way out of an old-fashioned upbringing especially for a woman.

And there is that "i'm so positive i'm in love" feeling but once reality sets in, you start to wonder. That's my situation.

Answer 6

Im not reallty sure but I asume that maybe its a way for people to have a sense of security and dependabilty. Its maybe kind of like signing a contract making people feel as though they are safe. To many people the paper resembles two people willing to share there lifes together and signing a legal document just signified they are sigining there life away to that person. I personally dont get it but would at the same time get married one day.

Answer 7

A very dear friend of mine was in a VERY long-term relationship; she and her guy were together since the 60s. In 2004, he died, had a heart attack on the street, and she was not given any time off from her job - because they weren't married. She also had to fight his brother for possessions that were actually hers, but were at 'his place' where he never stayed - they used his apartment basically for storage...and because he had a checking account and she didn't, she gave him money for her house bills, and his brother tried to make her pay for them by saying 'Bob' paid her bills...and then there's the 'next of kin' thing...if the person is disabled at some time in the future, you have no right to be in their hospital room, be a decision maker in their care, nothing - that's been gone through, too. So, while marriage is a booger to get out of once you're in - money wise - it's worth it if you really care for the person and want to be a major part of all parts of their lives.

Answer 8

I was with him 5 years. We had lived together 3 of those five and we knew that we could survive anything. We were in love and happy and content with each other. Neither one of us have kids, Im 25 and he is 30. We are planning on having kids now. We finish each other's sentences and know what the other is thinking. We are loyal and faithful to one another. We just got married this summer and we are just as happy as we were in the beginning. Just remember that love takes time♥

Answer 9

Well I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. It sucks that that little piece of paper keeps me from being taken serious when it comes to my step daughter and in my daily life with the legal stuff. It would just be easier. I don't see the difference in what i do now and what i would do for my family after.

Answer 10

The key word is commitment, if two people commit and dedicate their lives to each other then that is basis for a long and loving marriage. I got married because I wanted to spend my life with one very special woman.