Not very many people stay together for life even if they aren't married and they're just 'together'. So are relationships just for quick sex and/or quick emotional bonding for the moment or a few years and then move on? What about STD's or possible pregancies? What about really getting to know and bond with the person through growing old together? What about that close, lasting connection?
2006-10-16 13:24:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do see why you say marriage is dying off in America. But it's nto like that in all countries and in all cultures. Though you are in America, you don't have to conform to the usual anomalities of the marriages you have witnessed/ the relationships you have witnessed. I understand how it can be very disheartening, though.
America is a country with fast everything. Fast food all over. Fast loans. Fast credit card approval. Fast divorce. Fast abortions. People are just spoiled. Used to being in the fast lane, and when they need to leave the fast lane, they figure the fast lane is all they've ever known, and that it's easier that way. Goodness! Some people break up just because they "feel that it's just not working" You can't break up just because you "feel it isn't working anymore"! What happened to putting some initiative into it, some determination, and making it work?!
Also, people view love as merely an emotion. Tangible and at the discretion of circumstances. But love is more than a mere emotion. Love is what keeps you together when the going gets tough. When you have too many responsibilities to find time to kiss in the rain, when you have too many things to think about to feel the butterflies in your tummy. Love is what keeps you together through the seasons-until you notice the butterflies again-until it suddenly rains on you again and you start kissing.
There's a mentality, a pattern of thought, that has to be changed in America. But think on the world-scale. Not all countries are like that. If you want, see it as an American problem that people should find a solution to, rather than give in to.
2006-10-16 15:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those most likely to get a divorce, as well as have multiple divorces, are people who were married, or were living together, before age 24. They account for over 70% of all divorces.
Half of all children are now born outside of wedlock, up from 25% just 15 years ago. In less than 80% of the cases, the mother doesn't know who the father is, but this includes sperm bank pregnancies, which are still classified as illegitimate and owed child support.
The primary problem today is the growing shortage of men. In the last 30 years, the birth rate of male children has gone down by 25%, where now there is less than 1% difference between rate for male and female children. Given the much higher rates of death by males, we could be looking at pluralistic marriages in another 10 years. There was some discussion on it last Spring at a social scientists conference in Kansas City.
It should be noted that females reach full maturity at age 24, while males don't reach it until age 30, so one of the deciding factors of a lasting marriage is the maturity of the female.
2006-10-16 13:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love and marriage are still alive. I only graduated highschool 3 years ago, and already about 75% of my former classmates are married, and many of them have children, including myself. Both sets of my grandparents have been married for over 50 years. My mom and step dad have been married for 12 years. My mother may have gotten divorced, but a man who seemed wonderful turned out to be abusive. But shes still glad it happened because now she has my brother and I and our step-dad is like a real father to us. The way we see it, she needed her ex to have us as children, but they needed to get divorced so she could find her true soulmate and the man who would be the best father for us. I do agree that many people cheapen sex and marriage, and its sickening, but that is not the case for all of us. Some of us still take it very seriously. Its basically like just committing to a lifelong friendship, but too many people complicate it or demean it.
2006-10-16 13:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't have to be like everyone else.
If you want love and commitment, if you want to be with someone forever that will be commited to you, you don't worry about what could happen and about the statistics, you fall in love and take the chance.
It's better to have loved or been in a relationship and get hurt then to never have done so at all.
2006-10-16 13:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationship is not only based on marriage or paper agreement nor because you have children.
it is based on what you feel, what makes you happy, who do you wanna share your life with, and if you love each other.
with some of your thoughts like STD's it's more of a lust, with pregnancies it is natural to get pregnant if you're doing it/ and if you want too.
marriage is not a guarantee that you will be happy for the rest of your life.
it's a bit hard to live but take it easy...
2006-10-16 13:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The population of fools just happens to be growing in America
at exactly the same rate that the marriage rate is falling...
What a coincidence...
2006-10-16 13:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not follow when the path may lead be a trail blazer
2006-10-16 13:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it's really about is taking him for all he has. Get that money money!
2006-10-16 13:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Megs1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋