My daughter and her boyfriend, college grads, moved in together and have not set a date, although they talk about eventually getting married.
2006-10-16 13:22:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure, they'll eventually get married, most likely.
However, right now since they're just recently graduates from college they probably are not set financially to plan a wedding and honeymoon.
Remember, you can't rush commitment... it's your daughters decision.
2006-10-16 13:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Despite the fact that they talk about marriage I believe that one or both of them does not wish to at least in the near future.
There is also the possibility that they feel as though it is expected of them and so they are holding off until they feel no pressure. Your daughter would not wnat a proposal from him just because he thinks its about time he should, she'll want him to want to marry her. And he would be similar not wanting her to say yes out of a sort of obligation she feels for investing so much already into the relationship.
But moving in together is a way of getting out of the responsibility of committment while enjoying all the 'perks' of a married couple. This would suggest that they are unsure or have reservations about each other (or at least one of them does). They probably feel they could get married one day but if they commit to it they will feel stuck and then their relationship will get stuck.
If you're worried suggest that they get engaged at least to show that they are committed to each other in the relationship. An engagement can be broken much easier than a marriage. Its kind of like a large step up in the realtionship that they need to cross if they are ever willing to get married.
2006-10-16 20:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh they will probably get married eventually, but the better question is how long will they stay married? People who shack up rather than get married have a higher rate of divorce than those who didn't live together first. I wasn't able to find the statistics but they are out there. Good luck.
2006-10-16 20:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Norm 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To late to worry about it now. As a parent I started early telling my sons that shacking up was not the way to go. You can't believe how forward some girls were wanting to move in with them!!!!! I think the girls just wanted cheap rent. Most guys want the girl around to clean the house, cook do the laundry and little action when they feel like it. Are you really going to foot the bill or a big wedding after they have been playing house? (Oh by the way, my son did get married last year, after dating a girl for 4 years and no they never shacked up together, I'm not saying they didn't have sleep overs, but at least they didn't shack up)
2006-10-16 20:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If they have talked about it then it is actually less likely but you never know it really depends on the couple most ways if they stay together they may eventually get married
2006-10-16 21:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by DeborahUlloa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my husband for 4 years before we got married. My sister was living with her husband for like 8 years before they got married. So it doesn't mean that they won't their just not ready to take that step right now. They'll find there way eventually and if they don't then as long as there happy don't rock the boat.
2006-10-17 00:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been living with my boyfriend for 11 years. We have talked about getting married a few times but never went any further with it..I dont know if we ever will. But everyone is different. It depends on how your daughter and her boyfriend feel about marriage..or how strongly they feel about it..
2006-10-16 20:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by tazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a big girl now. Stay out of her business and let things happen naturally. Maybe he's reluctant to get married because he's worried about having in-laws that butt in where they don't belong.
2006-10-16 21:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they should have set a date before-- otherwise they may just get comfortable and not marry
2006-10-16 20:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nawwww they'll do what all kids do nowadays, She'll get pregnant have his kid (out of wedlock) he'll get bored and move out. She'll get stuck going through DHS to get child support, a typical suburban American love story :)
2006-10-16 20:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋