im 17 and the guy i love is black and im white. my parents will not stand for it cuz hes black. what should i do???
2006-10-16 13:00:52 · 12 answers · asked by Lil RIcan Chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Enjoy him , but dont marry him. And make sure your on birth control. Its not all about you. If you marry or get pregnant by him its the kids that have to lead a very hard life. But it wont be easy for you either. Your parents know this . Alot of people looking at you all the time and whispering. A lot of people wont rent to you or want you in thier neighborhood. I speak to you from a first hand view. Life wont be good. Trust me.
2006-10-16 13:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should date who you feel comfortable with but your first duty is to your parents,Be respectable at all times so i think you should wait until you move out on your own then date who you choose.Or have a talk with your parents,explain to them how you feel about him,that your old enough to make your own choices on dating,that if they don't or won't support you and your choices you will not have them call there house or come over.I believe you have to take a stand and follow your heart and above all else it's your right to do as you choose.Remember to talk to them with respect at all times and don't argue with them about it.Show them that you are a mature woman and you know what's best for you.Be careful not to burn down any bridges with your parents.Boyfriends come and go but parents are forever.Good luck to you and i hope this works out in your favor.
2006-10-16 13:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this must suck what your goin through and all. im 17 and im native american, and my first boyfriend was a white boy and i didnt tell my mom because, she would always tell me, "when you grow up i want you to marry a nice indian guy" and "oh that would be so great for you to have full blooded indian kids." when she said stuff like that it would piss me right off. i wasnt gonna stop liking my boyfriend cause hes was white and my mom didnt approve. im not with that guy anymore though and my new boyfriend is the same race as me. but you know, YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH. get that through your parents head!!!! are they that racist?? if you really love him youll stay with him and if your parents care enough for your feelings they shouldnt care what race your boyfriend is. and its not up to them what color your boyfriends skin is. if you have understanding parents, then sit down and talk to them and tell them, its not their choice. your not gonna quit loving someone cause of what they say. remember its YOUR relationship, not thiers, and telll them also your only 17 its not like your planning on having kids and moving away and getting married. just try and change their mind. they would if they cared about your feelings
2006-10-16 13:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother is the only one in my family who is not racist. she raised me not to be racist...and i am not. I dated a black guy once...i really really liked him and wanted to date him...so i did. I just couldnt visit my family very frequently with him but i was happy. Other people (the stupid ones) will make it harder because they think blacks are bad, that they are from a different planet or something and do not belong here......try not to let those idiots bother you and do what you feel right. If hes a great guy, treats you good...and you 2 really want to go out...I say go for it. I would. Life isnt about you, him and everyone else......its all about you 2. Go for it.
2006-10-16 13:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, if your living on your own, you are your own boss. But if you are living under they're roof, you do have to respect them and there rules. I am a parent of 2. One is 24 and the other is 20. I am not a pred. women, so to me its not a problem, but you are the one who has to live with them even if you dont live under they're roof. So you need to decide if dating the guy is worth getting into a spat with your parents. If he is, then go for it. If your doing it for spite, dont do it. Its not fair to the man. You need to think about it and then stick by your decision.
2006-10-16 13:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u can wait till u turn 18 or 21 ? But just a cautionary statement here: this guy may not last with u bcos at 17, with raging hormones, your decision tends to be very short lived n temporary. Meanwhile, u may have to secretly go out with him till u r found out or till your mind or his change
2006-10-16 13:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have deeply rooted prejudices which it will be hard for them to overcome. Perhaps arrange a meeting in a neutral place, a restaurant in a neighbouring town, and once they get to know him and realise how much you love him, the barriers will begin to break down.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 13:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell your parents to grow up and get out of the 50's! There is nothing wrong with that at all!
2006-10-16 13:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teach your parents how to Orca Drift!
2006-10-16 13:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your parents you are lucky to find love in this world period. who cares whether or not you're the same color
2006-10-16 13:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋