is my grandmother possessed or just crazy?

Question

my grandmother is a very hateful, paranoid, angry person. she is 75 years old and hits people and threatens people all the time. she used to beat my grandpa, until he died a little over a year ago. now she says she sees him and other mens faces floating around her house at night, she chases them with flashlights and has shot at them with a b-b gun. i called the department of aging and they came out and took a look around and did nothing, said she was fine. her neighbor says she walks around the back yard talking to herself and starts yelling cuss words. she recently has had eye trouble and has been under a doctors care. she claims she cant even read her mail, and the doctor says she shouldnt be driving. i turned her in to the dmv, and they retested her and she PASSED. it seems like she can know things she shouldnt, she can make people believe she is fine when she wants, things go her way when they obviously shouldnt. whats up with that?

also, she has been this way for as long as i can remember, always thought the worst of people, always abusive. and if i told her i loved her, she would find some way to use that against me, trust me. its like walking on egg shells with her. no matter what you say or do, or how nice you think you are being, she will turn it into something negative.

Answer 1

i can empathize with you. my grandmother was a spiteful, conniving, mean-spirited woman as well. she told me ridiculous lies to try to control me through fear when i was a child. the older she got, the more controlling and manipulative she became. my grandfather took every bit of it. cant for the life of me figure out why. i have often wondered why she was so horrible, and have never figured it out. the only conclusion i have ever come to, is that some people are poison. they are no damn good to anyone around them. the suffering and unhappiness that they cause brings them some weird measure of satisfaction. having been in your shoes, i can only advise you to avoid her. this may seem harsh, but she will only cause you to feel miserable and depressed.

Answer 2

you are endangering your life to be kind at this time in life to her. each time you miss judge things it will be used against you. she is in the sociopathic dementia time and it's so horrible to all that have to put up with it. once they have shed the perception that kindness is there life they take on the roll of persuing their own gains and if you play(stupid) in to it, your going to retain this all your life, the plax that is hardening in the brain is walling her in to a small world that she is in control of, they get an ego that is something like if you don't know who i am i'll tell you who i am , i'm a very important person,yadda,yadda, been there and done that mother was a nightmare for five years and it was all right till it was too late, when this happens you are going to be constently drained of your strength and energy, beware that this is scientific fact now that the finding that the care giver and rescuers are dead as she is when it is over some never recover, they do it to save money and the institutions have drug to fall back on and luxuries to keep them in lala land so you know what you've read here and you think you are strong but no one can see that they escape death by sucking your battery dead always go take a look at your self in the mirror to see the hidious things that have left there mark on you, thirty years ago something went bad and they are stuck there and hate everything and everybody so save your self and you will be forgiven for being too young to be there,leave soon or take it to your grave, God will love you more if you leave her early, rather than if you stay too late.save your self and grow strong, your situation will only make you weaker from it

Answer 3

Well, she isn't possessed because that isn't real it's just a superstition. So that would make your grandmother crazy, from the list of choices you have given us to choose from. But maybe your grandmother acts the way she does just because of the way she was brought up, maybe she just doesn't like to be close to people, in a loving manner for a family. As far as her seeing faces, well you said her sight has gotten worse so perhaps, she sees the reflection of some sort of a light on the wall and her eyes make it out to be a face. Perhaps she sees this potential light as a face because she feels bad for the way she has treated the people that she believes she is seeing. Or perhaps you are correct and she is just plain crazy.

Answer 4

Some people are just mean spirited and hateful by nature. If your grandmother has been this way as long as you can remember, then she has probably been this way her whole life and she does not know any other way to live.

My grandmother was this way. She was very hateful and mean to a dog my grandfather had and when the dog died she missed him. Same with my grandad. He could not ever do anything right and she told him she hated him, but when he died, she talked like she loved him and adored him.

Answer 5

I would think your Grandma has senile dementia. It is caused by strokes or a slow heartbeat in aging people.

They often act similar to a person who has Alzheimer's disease. The difference is that a person with Alzheimer's is always like that. A senile person has good and bad days. Sometimes they will be irrational for days at a time.
I find it very hard to accept that she passed her driving test, that is just ridiculous.

She really needs a lot of care and understanding. Her mind no longer belongs to her. She probably needs to be in a nursing home, or assisted living facility, as soon as possible.


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Answer 6

She may be suffering from some form dementia And it sounds like she has been suffering for a while. I am surprise that a Doctor has not picked that up on that. But there are other illness that can cause your grand-ma to act in that manner. Maybe someone in your family knows something and has not filled you in yet. So until she is fully checked out anything is possible.

Answer 7

It sounds like you're grandmother's meaness is turning into a mental illness, though she may have had a mental illness all along. It's sad that nothing you seem to do is working. I'm sure you've hard feelings towards her for all the hurt she's caused, but she now needs help desperately. I hope you can find a way to get it for her.

Answer 8

Sounds like she's lonely and acts out when shes feeling lonely she need to make friends and go on trips and things tell her you love her as well and take her to the market once a week and remember we all get old or die trying so remember you too will be in her shoes one day she must of done something right to got as far in life as she has

Answer 9

I feel that you grandmother has a negative attachment. I've seen similar cases in the spiritual healing centre Casa De Dom Ignacio in Abadiania, Brazil. The difference in people behaviour before & after they were freed from their attachment was shoking.

Answer 10

This sounds a lot like a case of Dementia. Elderly people usually have it, and I know. My poor old 88-year-old great-great grandmother has it. Anyway this sounds similar to my great-great grandmother's case. She often thinks my Uncle Tom is her long dead husband and talks to some woman named Betsy, which is very similar to your case. So yes, this is most likely Dementia. Your grandmother is not crazy, it is just a disease related to Alzheimer's.