im 16 am i old enough?? my bf wants it and i do 2. i just dont no if its a good idea or not?? what do i do to make him happy if i do do it?? how do i please him??
2006-10-16 12:56:25 · 18 answers · asked by hott stuff 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do not do it!!! Please, you will regret it... If you are having second thoughts you are not ready!!! Use good judgement... be smart... It is not about age just do what you think is right and if you choose to have sex please please please use protection
use common sence
2006-10-16 13:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once you have sex you kiss less. Sex is all consuming.
Consider this, if you had sex and then broke up after, how would you feel. He is likely not the last boyfriend that you will have.
The consequences of having sex are the biggies, possible pregnancies, STDs, decreased fertility later in life. Also, losing focus on school work and other important things.
If you want to have sex to make him happy then ask yourself why he is not happy enough to just smooch, etc.
I would say that while 16 is a reasonable number for some, it is not a slam dunk decision - there are few consequences for waiting.
Whenever you start, please use two methods of protection and be in charge of both. Condoms and something else (spermicide, diaphragm, IUD, pill, patch, ring)
The emotional entanglements will hurt more than the physical ones.
2006-10-16 13:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God help me, I am really trying to resist the urge to tell you you're not ready for sex until you can spell, not to mention formulate and punctuate a sentence...
It's not a good idea at all, but you're probably going to do it anyway. Number one, protect yourself. I don't care if he says he's clean or says he's never been with anyone else. Use a condom every time. You don't want to get pregnant and you definitely don't want an STD. Number two, expect emotional consequences even if you've protected yourself from the potential physical consequences. It hurts a lot more to get dumped by some guy you just gave it up to than it would if you hadn't. Number three, he'll probably enjoy it no matter what you do; that's the way men are built. But don't expect to enjoy it much yourself. It will probably hurt the first time and you probably will NOT have an orgasm (that's something that you really need to learn to do on your own before you can expect some guy to do it for you.) Really think about this first and make sure he's worth it. If you decide he is, BE SAFE.
2006-10-16 13:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are ready for sex then you will know it, don't just want to because he does, 16 is pretty young for having sex, but if you are going to do it no matter what then make sure you are safe no matter what if he doesn't want to use a condom then tell him no condom no sex, unless of course you want a disease or to be a teen mom, which you know condoms do break, and if he says he can pull out before going in you then tell him no cause you can still get pregnant, I hope he means allot to you cause you will always remember your first time, and although the first time is special you might not like it cause it will be a heck of allot of pain for you. Be careful
2006-10-16 13:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lisha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg gurl ure still gung but i know if u luv him to death u will do it but im telling u from experience dont do it or else u will regret it gurl cause after that u never know if he will dump u thats what mostly the guys noww what just to have sex and thats it he just wants to hit it and quit it..it happend to me..i whish i could go back but too late 4 that..but thats u i guys if u really thinking of doing that plaseeeeeee use protection a condom and make sure it dont rip cause if not ure screwed and imagine u end up pregnat what r u going to do a 16 yr old with a baby ure life is just gona suck well think about it but if someting goes roung deal with it..
im just telling u tjis cause it sucks wen they dump u and u had sex
well hopefully i helped and think of it and ure future
good luck..=)
2006-10-16 14:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You are much too young! If your bf is pushing you then he does not respect you. Best if you slow down with this relationship. You should be concentrating on school work and extracurricular activities. Join a club or sport, but just keep busy in groups and don't spend time alone with this boy.
2006-10-16 13:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Debbk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i have to say about this is ... if your not ready just tell him that your not ready ... and if he gets all mad and breaks upi with you he really didnt love you... and if you tell him that your not ready be sure to add... if you truly love me you will understand why im not ready and that i want to wait ...and if you dont understand me you dont truly love me....
and its the truth ... if he breaks up wit you he didnt truly love you..... and really save ur self untill youa re ready because i hear of too many ppl that loose their virginity at 16 and younger and they regret it and sometimes have kids when they are still in school ...
so think about it.....
2006-10-16 13:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by statefrogy_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're questioning the idea, I say don't do it. Sex is not a risk-free act. Think about STD's and pregnancy. You need to be emotionally mature as well as well informed.
2006-10-16 13:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Oso morado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 everybody is ready for sex almost everyone in this country lost it at that age...trust me you are ready if you want to have sex go ahead dont listen to the idiots on top.
2006-10-16 13:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If YOU are not 100% sure you should not do it. It is your choice. Your hormones are going wild at this age, you wont die if you do and you might not have regrets, but until YOU are 100% ready for it you shouldn't engage in such activities.
2006-10-16 13:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Day 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
16 is old enough. I started when I was 13.
2006-10-16 13:22:12 · answer #11 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋