Help Guys.Is It normal for 40 + yr old guys to want to constantly look at young girls 15-25 yr olds?

Question

I am 47 yrs old.My b/f is 46 he's never been married or had children. I have 3 girls ages 15-26.Not now and again.but like an obsession...he looks at girls as young as my daughters.We have split up several times over this.He just isn't attracted to people his own age.I know he loves me but this causes big problems.I'm not a jealous school girl and have been round the block enough times to know this is not normal. We went on holiday recently and I spent a whole week watching him scanning the girls. It sickens me to the pit of my stomach. Please would especially the guys on here give me their views.I want female view points too and anyone going through the same to let me know how it is for you. I am pushing 50 yrs old and want to start feeling good about my age

Answer 1

actually...it is quite normal for guy that age to look at younger girls. its ******* sickening, your right! but its not a surprise. i mean, have you heard of all these little girls getting molested, raped, and killed, and kidnapped by these 30-40 year old men?! have you brought it up to him that HEY WHEN IM STANDING WITH YOU ITS NOT ******* SMART TO BE CHECKIN OUT A 15 YEAR OLD ***...and ask if he's aware of the term "stagitory rape"...or better yet, ask what he thinks of himself that he checks out girls old enough to be his daughter? find out how he'd feel knowing that some perv 45 year old is getting off looking at HIS daughter ... im sure he will take that in SOME WAY! i only hope not a dirty way...good luck. other than just that...id say leave him

Answer 2

well it depends on what type of guy you seem to be and portray to that particular 20 year old girl. i'd say it takes a mature minded 20 year old girl to be into a man of your age. i'm only a 19 year old guy, but i'll be 40 sooner or later, so why not think ahead. lol. no but seriously, some find older men attractive, you never know who you might get involved with. age is just a number anyway, so anything's possible my friend, good luck homie. =]

Answer 3

I'd say it's fairly normal. When I'm at the mall, I've seen guys your husband's age perving at girls who look as young as 12-13. It sounds like he is not good at disguising his attraction; most guys are more discreet, or else you are smarter and more observant than most people. It may just be a stage he's going through, and not being a father himself, he might not have learned to think of teenagers as "off limits". Remember that he might look at young girls, but he loves YOU.

Maybe you need to talk to him about it some more and tell him everything you feel and worry about and fear about his attraction.

Answer 4

I like looking at attractive girls, no matter what their age is, and no, just because a girl is pretty to look at does not mean I want to see her naked or jump her bones. Now, if he starts talking to them and hitting on them, that's where a problem could start. Guys look at girls, that probably won't ever change. Some people go to museums and art galleries to see nice things. Is there much of a difference? I don't think so.

Answer 5

I'm 40 plus, and I admit that the younger women 20 plus are fun to look at, but I do not mess with them. Your guy seems to have a obsession and needs to have counseling of some sort, or you just might want to move on and let him live his life!

Good luck!

Answer 6

This is absolutly normal. My grandfather is 80 years old and a conservative chatholic and i still catch him looking at high school girls every once in a while.
The man in question may or may not be a pervert. This is not to be considered in deciding that. Men look a girls. 30 or 40 years ago girls dressed much more conservative and this most be considered.
i don't think this is a matter of his sexuality or libido but one of RESPECT. looking a girls 15 years old and up is not abnormal by and means. Looking at YOUR 15 year old daughter is wrong.

And please don't take this the wrong way. But remember to look at how you girls dress. (I am a father of daughter myself) We owe it to them and to ourselves to keep them from dressing to provocative.

Wait... When i say it outloud, 15 does sound a little young for him to looking at. Just a little too young.

Answer 7

I am a 40 something year old man. I look at pretty females my own age and younger. That doesn't mean I am undressing them with my eyes, or am having thoughts of being unfaithful to my wife. It just means that I am a man. It sounds to me like you may have gone and gotten yourself into a relationship with.... a man. I think that most honest men will admit that they look at women. It's only natural.

Answer 8

depends on how the situation is. "looking", yes. but im 18 dating a 36 year old for the past 2 1/2 years and we've never been as happy in our lives.

Answer 9

Looking is meaningless. If he acts on his looking with your daughters (or another young girl), then it is a different issue.

But, it seems like you have the problem not him. If he wasn't attracted to you, then why is he with you? If all he does is look, then what is the big deal? Honestly, younger women are attractive for different reasons (visually) than older women (their personality and character).

It seems harmless.

Answer 10

I think the problem is that girls look like women nowadays. That's all there is to it. Men have a dream that they could get a girl like that and it is disgusting. if they find one, she only wants his $. You be proud of 50. 50 is beautiful and sexy and NO teenager can offer a man what you can, both emotionally, intellectually and sexually. Looking is free, if he touches, I'd show him the door. and find a real man.