2006-10-16 12:27:20 · 23 answers · asked by dmp1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wedo not want to be married, due to the fact we both come from divorced families and neithor was good. I am very content the way it is. If we were married this would be even worse. I do believe, in a way we are married. For better or worse, in sickness and in health etc....I do love him and I do trust him. How sad is that, man I do declare I am fudged in the head. LOL. I trust in god to get us threw this. I do thank every one of you for your words, very good, and all very understandable. Just so all of you know, I own every thing. He would leave with his clothes and his truck and his boat. That is it. All eles is owned by me. No lawyer needed no child suport needed, I can make it on my own but to just give up on love makes no sense to me. I do not think this is the worst that can happen we have been threw worse. Paternity test has been done and he is 99.9% babies father. she did have others in for a test too. Hmm the roads life brings you makes you strongerThankyou again
2006-10-16 14:24:18 · update #1
get a lawyer and start collecting child support from him
2006-10-16 12:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by geom1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn thats deep theres nothing you can do but first make sure this baby belongs to your man and second as hard as its gona be except the fact that the baby is a part of him and is not going nowhere i know what your going through and honey the rest is yet to come she the other woman is gona expect him to support this baby the same way he does if he does with your two children i would let him go but why should you make it so easy for him he needs to be a father now to all three of these children because no matter what as much as you and him and her and even i do not like it these children are all bound by blood to your man as their father and honestly the baby had no fault in this it was the mother who choose to have it for whatever reasons all i can tell you is do what you feel is right not only for him but for your kids as well because when the time comes like it or not hes gona have to answer to why they have a sibling on the outside and hes the one whos gona feel it till then just put it in gods hands and always remember EVERYTHING HAPPENS IN THIS LIFE FOR A REASON WHATEVER IT IS WE THE WORLD MAY NEVER KNOW
2006-10-16 19:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
He didn't respect or love you. If he did, he wouldn't have cheated to begin with. The first matter is he had unprotected sex with someone else and didn't even think about the consequences! And, on top of that... he had unprotected sex with someone other than you.
If he respected you and your children, he would've worked out any problems that you might have been having in your marriage at the time and wouldn't have jumped to infidelity.
You can't possibly be considering staying with him after the pain he has caused you. He has to suffer the consequences of his foolish acts. Now he has another family, a new baby, with another woman. And, even if he chooses not to be with that woman, then he's on his own. He chose to cheat on not just you but his kids as well.
2006-10-16 19:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you have learned years together does not always promise foreverness. We have to keep on keeping on with the cards live has given us. 19 years you know the answer better than any of us.It is up to you follow your heart and pray for guidance from your higher power. Good luck. Things have a way of working out so focus on the kids and consider happiness for you all.
2006-10-16 19:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Carolyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends, if he truly cares about u then he will show certain signs of responsibility, like does he take care of the other kids? Does he tell u he loves u and mean it does he regret what he did, does he tell u how much he regrets it, usually i have a 0 tolerance kind of thinking when it comes to cheating like its totally over at tht point, but in ur case i thinku should see if he is sincerely sorry, if he isnt u should seriously think about leaving ur situation with him.â¥
2006-10-16 19:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you wanna do?? This other women will now be in your lives for the next 21 yrs,can you handle that? Do you trust him anymore? I'm guessing not. It may be time to move on with your kids. I know you've been together for a long time but what he has done cannot be undone. I'm sorry and i hope you give life without your cheating hubby a thought.
2006-10-16 19:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well that is up to you. you have to decide what is best for yourself and your child. since your partner now has a baby, if you choose to still be with him, then you will also be with that child and you will have to accept that the other woman will always be there...or you can leave him, take your children, if he tries to stop you from taking them then just make sure you file for full custody and also file for child support if they are under the age of 18(or may be 21) it's 21 where i live.
2006-10-16 19:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide whether or not you can handle being married to him/her with child support and visitation of a new baby on the horizon. What is important now is the baby. Anything else is secondary.
2006-10-16 19:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for you,i know what your going through been there myself.....i couldn't handle it when i found out 3 years later....we broke up eventually after being together 16 years. i know he regretted having the other child but it was the beginning of the end..i hope you can find a way to work through this but i personally couldn't. good luck.
2006-10-16 19:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by diane c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the house, 1/2 of his retirement, spousal support if possible, the boat, the lake house and everything else you can get your hands on. But first, kick his *** out of the house.................... you don't owe him (unless you have a similiar story that we're not hearing about)
2006-10-16 19:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I'd take a long look at why you have been together for 19 years and are still "significant others"
2006-10-16 19:30:43 · answer #11 · answered by goose24_2001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋