my wife says no loving unless i get fixed is there any other way to solve thi prob...?

Question

married 17 years 2 kids. the bed room is just aplace to sleep what can ido? ihate operations i need help

Answer 1

You need to tell us what is wrong with you.
I agree, operations should be the very last option.
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Answer 2

There are a lot of answers to this question. It's a matter of which
is most apealling and lovingly acceptable to you and your wife.
However, there needs to be good open and loving communication
about this, and if you don't like each other's answer....maybe best
to see a marriage counsellor for a few sessions. IF you don't have insurance for this, you can go to dr phil's website that has all kinds of advise!
Some off the Wall suggestions:
(1) abstain...don't have sex until after her menapause..it'll give
you something to look forward to in your old age ..and can build
character and fortitude.......there are a 'few' good priests and nuns that prove it can be done...at least they say so!
(2) Take really HOT baths or buy a hot tub! It's suppose to
'kill' a lot of sperm and decreases your chance of fertilization...
....not full proof....but add this to some spermacide, a condom,
and/or 'natural' family planning (determining the days of the
month the wife could be furtile......and the odds are very low
that you'll have another child. Note that 'good' Roman Catholics
are NOT suppose to use anything but 'natural' family planning
and it's a sin to have a vasectomy! Go Figure! One reason
they have had such large families!??
(3) '69' or mutural masterbation is not a wonderful option..but
think, it does mantain an active' sex life'.
(4) Three children could be seen as a blessing......well, I
understand....my wife and I have two too. Thank God we are
getting old and the menopause is around the corner. lol
Good Luck

Answer 3

If your wife can go thru child labor and possibly even having had to be cut below to accomodate the birth of the child...Why can't you get the lil snips? Quit being so selfish. She has gone thru alot giving you children already. If you man up and get this done you will feel so stupid for making an issue out of nothing. Talk with people who have had this procedure done or who actually know about it. It's ridiculous to expect her to go back to the hospital to have her tubes tied because you are man enough to take on the responsibility and spare your wife.
A Vasectomy is a MINOR operation big guy! You'd get a bigger incision getting a tooth pulled.

Answer 4

What are you afraid of? The incision is not even as wide as the width of a pinky finger. A small vas will be removed that is sooooo tiny. You will still be able to squirt when you c*m but they won't be viable. You won't even be able to tell the difference. It is quite liberating knowing that there isn't a chance of pregnancy happening. Your wife will want to have sex more often as well.
The post op takes only a day and you will be tender once the anesthesia wears off. Vasectomy is one of the smartest things a man can do especially when you are done having children.
Do some research and consult with a physician. It's not as bad as you think.

Answer 5

Why can't she get a tubal? Like others I heard that a vasectomy was easier than a tubal, that it was a mere office visit for the man. My husband also hated the thought of it and 'didn't want anyone coming within a mile of that area with a knife'. But he went and had it done (on his own I didn't pressure him to do this) And I've got to say that I felt very bad for him. He was extremely sore for a week or so afterwards and the "slight" swelling was...well his scrotum was 3x's the size it should be. The poor man lived with an ice pack for several days. Well from what my friend that had a tubal done said I would have told him no, I'll get the tubal because it didn't sound near as painful as I know what he went through.

Answer 6

She is not leaving you much choice. Sex is a woman's greatest form of manipulation. I don't believe anyone should force another to undergo reproductive surgery if it makes the other person feel so uncomfortable. Other options of birth control is that she could get a tubilagation if she feels so strongly about this or she can be on some type of birth control and you can wear a condom. There's no other way around this but those options that I can see.

By the way, I got my tubes tied and the procedure was nothing to cry about. Of course, people say that a vascetomy is easier than tubilagation; however, I've heard of some (not all) men who got it done and they had impotency problems, less sensitivity in the genital region, and so forth. Do your research and talk to your doctor to make sure that you two have explored all of your options before resorting to something you may regret later.

Answer 7

If she is serious and you want to be happy and make her happy, I suggest that you do it unless you are planning on having more kids in the future. If you are unhappy in your marriage then that could be a problem in making that decision but if you both are in love and are having a great life together then go for it to make sure that no unwanted babies come along and she is glad that you went through with it for her. Sounds like there is no fun for you now so it should be a simple decision.

Answer 8

It's not so bad; just two little cuts, a bag of ice, and you're good to go. No more kids, and the sex will be the best you ever had!
it's also reversible, too, just in case in your old age you want children the same age as your grandchildren, you can .. . .
Anyway, the alternatives are the usually stand byes; condoms, both male and female. Obviously, she has had enough of the pill, nd other female devices.
So it's in your corner, mate.

Answer 9

in case you quite love the two human beings and the existence you reside at abode, and the existence you share of the ingredient with your BF... then you definately could desire to settle for that that's the appropriate it quite is going to be... At this ingredient you're able to desire to choose in case you opt to proceed sneaking around, persevering with the deception and taking part in it sluggish with your BF... or supply all of it up and return to your married existence and attempt to relish what you have... i'm sorry to assert there isn't any answer... it quite is a relationship capture that many human beings fall into... the unhappy area is which you quite improve a love for the two human beings... and that turns into very confusing to handle... You the two have top smash it off, proceed on the sly or divorce... and by utilising now you recognize the only answer on your heart that's suitable...

Answer 10

TWO KIDS ARE ENOUGH,wait until they get in those teen yrs.be a man and have your mommy take you to the doctor.After all you may have a good looking nurse holding the little guy steady during surgery.That might be worth it .