I am madly in love with my fiance and there is no doubt about that
Is love enough?
We have a lot of general things in common..(we like the same food, tv shows, our personalities are different but in a way where we click really well and have a lot of the same beliefs)
There are some things we dont have in common (things that are very important to me) for example-I like to have my mate go places with me like a date, shopping, to dinner, to work out, just anywhere.
that is very important to me because that is what I like to do most days.My mate stays home 24/7 doesnt even go out with friends. He wont go anywhere and I dont know how to get him out of the house. Any advice on how to give him a kick in the butt and get out of the house from time to time? thank you
2006-10-16 12:15:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Joey
that is great! I will definitely make the time to try that
2006-10-16 12:27:30 · update #1
I wish I had some good advice to give you, but I don't. This very thing broke up my relationship eventually.
There are basically two types of people when it comes to relationships: one kind (like me, and you) think that married couples should spend most of their time together. The other kind of person (like my ex and your fiance) is happy to let their partner go off and do whatever she wants, so long as she comes home to him.
My ex could never understand why I needed him to come out with me. He just encouraged me to go out on my own. Trouble was, I didn't feel happy doing that - to me it simply felt wrong to leave him behind. There didn't seem much point in being together, if we didn't share life. Because doing things alone seemed so wrong, and the only way to be with him was to stay at home, I started staying home more. And more. After a few years of doing that, I started to feel isolated, stifled and bored. Eventually, I had to leave, even though I loved him.
You need to have a serious talk with him about this. Tell him, in no uncertain terms, how deeply you need him to share activities with you. Warn him that it could be a deal breaker for your future marriage. Show him this post, maybe.
2006-10-16 12:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you meet mr potatoe head,,,,if he never leaves the house,,you are engaged to some one that never leaves the house does he work??? .....this is sad because you have notta in common with him,,,,he sounds like he may be into drugs and you are either accepting or denying either way how will you get mr potatoe head to the church on your wedding day .....he needs more than a kick in the butt he needs a good slap in face...sureilll
2006-10-16 19:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not like other people and therefore shies away from contact. Suggest he do something just for himself, not with you. Encourage him to do solitary things likes flying kites, hiking, biking. Any of these can be a shared activity, but he has to find enjoyment out of the house before he can find enjoyment with you both out of the house.
2006-10-16 19:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II'm serious.
Everytime you leave the house you dress as if your going on a hot date. Wear dresses skirts and great lingerie underneath ( Garterbelts and Stockings are a mans favorite) and then let him know your going out and maybe, change a stocking in front of him and then oput on some sexy heels. and ask him if he wants to go with you.
If he doesn't go he's dead
and I'll go with ya
2006-10-16 19:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously think about marrying him....if going out is important to you and not important at all to him you're going to have problems.
Marriage won't change him.
Maybe you can ask him to go to therapy with you.
2006-10-16 19:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋