2006-10-16 12:10:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
that is the hardest question ive seen on here
2006-10-16 12:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't imagine giving up my children. I love them too much. But I also think that it is very courageous for a mother to realize if she can't give the baby the life it deserves and to want to give it a good home. You see I was adopted when I was 10 weeks old. I am so thankful that she gave me up. She was 16 when she had me and into drugs and alcohol. I still know who she is, and I know my biological brothers (2) and sister. She had 3 more children after me. They were taken away and put in foster care. She has been in and out of jail most of her life. My biological sister is 19 and lives with my parents that adopted me. We are close and things are great. But I can definately tell you that she did the best thing when she gave me up. My parents are very supportive and I wouldn't even want to think of what life would have been like without them in it!
So in some cases it is very good to give your child up if you know that you can't take care of it yourself.
2006-10-17 10:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by lookinout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you would more than likely be hurting yourself once you were to give the baby up. If you aborted or did adoption. You would notice all the small things about kids that didn't matter. You would also hurt the chil when it finds out that it has been calling the wrong person mama and telling the wrong person they love them every night. It's just something about seeing a smiling face after work that you created. Or when you see this thing that once lived inside you and now is walking and talking and feeding itself. That's my opinion good luck on your decision.
2006-10-16 19:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by DaChicUNV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a better life for the child or for me? Giving up a child is hard enough but yes if I knew that I couldn't or wouldn't be a good parent I would give up my baby so that my baby could have a better life. Love is about making sacrifices
2006-10-16 19:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I Would not because nothing is ever easy. I would do my best to make my child happy. Giving up the baby might not be the right decision either. You can think that your giving your baby to a better home in reality you could be giving your baby to a couple of nut jobs.
2006-10-16 19:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very unselfish thing to do. Most people who get pregnant accidentally either have an abortion or keep the baby and end up on welfare for the rest of their lives. There are a lot of positive reasons to give a baby up for adoption. There are a lot of women who want a child and cannot have one for one reason or another and I believe if someone gives them a baby it is the best blessing you can give. If you are considering adoption for your baby, please know if you want to have contact with your child there is something called open adoption. It means you can have contact throughout your child's life. The extent of contact depends on the adopting family. My husband and I want an open adoption and plan on being very close with our birth mother. We want her to visit as often as she likes. Make sure you are totally comfortable with the situation before you make a decision. Good luck and God bless you. If you want someone to talk to, I am available for chat. I have helped a lot of young women in your situation deal with the emotional trauma associated with pregnancy and adoption.
2006-10-16 21:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Patty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No cause theres not guarantee that there going to have a better life anywhere else..Id like to take my chance's do the best that i can and let them know i did the best that i can. It's not about having everything you've ever wanted it's the love the unconditional love. Making do with what you got. Later on in life they might just look up to you for it
2006-10-16 19:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would your life really be better , you might spend the rest of your life regretting the choice you made. And giving it up might be a good choice but how would you feel and what about the child how would it feel all grown up when it wants to know its mother.
2006-10-16 20:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by vannahgreen2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A better life for my child would is with his mother. I would do my best to provide for them. If you feel you cant give a good life to a child use protection.
2006-10-16 19:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Terril 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could not provide a good life for my child I would have to say yes. I wouldn't want my child to be without food or clothes because I made a bad decision.
I am lucky, I am married with a wonderful husband and we live comfortable lives. I do have 3 children and it would be hard but if I couldn't feed my children I would pray someone else could.
2006-10-16 19:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A better life for you or for the baby...and who's to say that the two of you staying together wouldn't be the better life? My God told me that would always be the case...he would never give up any of us and we are his children.
2006-10-17 00:08:44 · answer #11 · answered by Carole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋