ok, so ive talked to my friend about this a number of times. Im going to plain out say it. Im jealous of my best friend. Im jelous of her boyfriend, of her family relationship...of her. Im tired of talking to her about it, for a couple reasons which ill keep to myself. This is not my 1st time asking for advice on this topic..im so desperate to try and find a way out of me being so jealous. Im FINALLY starting to take other peoples advice, when they say "your only 17..just wait for "him" to come to you...and"its ok to be single." im getting better with it. Im not sure exactly, what it is im asking for help with but..i feel so...misplaced..out of order right now. Im very confussed. My other best friend and i can relate much more when it comes to family matters. I guess i wanna know what its like to have a good relationship with ur family and to actually be close to them, which im not.
2006-10-16 12:08:21 · 12 answers · asked by xemoxheartx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don"t be jealous you sound like a nice person and you want things and relationships that you never had ..try and be positive about these things accept them ..i am sure your friend includes you in her family life..we all suffer from such feelings but jealousy is a sad way of life you need to let it go because it will take over your life be good i know you can ,,sureilll
2006-10-16 12:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, there's a saying that you "can't make someone else happy until you make yourself happy first". It really sounds like there's a a self-esteem problem. There will always be people in the world who are prettier, more attractive boyfriends, more educated, more money, more 'things', better parents, better family - and the list goes on.... but no ONE person's life is perfect.
There are people with a gizzion dollars and seem to have everything - oh... except that they lost a child early or are dealing with a serious illness..... so it's important when you see someone "your jealous of", you have to actually take a look at her life from all angles..... the good AND the bad... because there is bad..... you just haven't seen it. I know so many people who's lives "look good" from the outside - but would I trade places? Not on your life..... because maybe that wealthy woman's husband is cheating on her..... or maybe he beats her up.... so..... stop being jealous and be who you are. No one knows what the future will bring for other people.... maybe that beautiful face will not age very well.... I would never want to trade places with anyone.....
My point is that each person has a 'gift' and your goal in life is to find out what that 'one thing' is that you have that is special. You will never find it in someone else's back yard. You need to be happy with yourself..... and everything else will fall into place....
2006-10-16 12:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean cuz I'm still going through with trying to get have a good relationship with my family & trying not 2 feel out of place & I'm 23. Instead of me being jealouse of a friend I was jealouse of my aunt. She was the 1 with all of the attention & all. But 1 day I did find that special man that made me feel into place & when he came I didn't care for my family anymore. So it is true 1 day you'll find that person who will make u forget about your other issues. 4 now just distract yourself that's what I use 2 do when I felt the way u do know.
2006-10-16 12:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easy when you don't have good relations with own family.
Two things: Make less contact with friend that leaves you jealous and spend more time with one you feel comfy with.
OR Tell friend why you are jealous of her and ask her to share family life and things she has with you. Not to live with her, but to learn.
See what she has you don't, learn and take what's good for you, because not everything she has or is ,will be good for you.
Don't blame your family,but open your mind and eyes to life and learn. Please don't take negative friends. say no for things that will hurt you(drugs,sex and others...)
Get more friends. Go out in groups and observe. Don't look for a boyfriend. Find friends and learn how to communicate and enjoy life. Boyfriends can make you lonely,cause they are jealous and you will not have friends.
Go out,and learn how to be you,not someone else.
Love will come when you are more relaxed and at ease with yourself and who you are.
Enjoy Life: Go hiking, swimming, watch sport live, dancing and whatever there is to enjoy. Don't get stuck doing the same thing every weekend. Study during the week,find a hobby and be adventurous weekends.
2006-10-16 12:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by TP asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of being jealous - which gets you nowhere but angry start trying to fix you. I suggest you sit back and ask yourself why you need to be needed. It appears to me that you want attention and would like to get it anyway possible. Do not let jealousy get the best of you - Stop watching what others have and pay attention to YOU. Look at yourself and find out why your friend has what she has, and you don't. You are wasting precious time on jealousy, anger and pity. You think a boyfriend will just fall out of the sky? Hunny, it takes hardwork, patience, understanding and forgiveness to maintain a family ties and relationships
2006-10-16 12:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i feel for you. my parents are getting a divorce and i hate my dad. im only 14 so i doubt you will listen to anything i have to say. but i always tell myself that being happy isnt about having everything in your life perfect its about stringing together all the little things. I have a good relationship with my mom though. and a lot of friends and a boyfriend so maybe thats why im ok. but still nothings a drag, think about it. life does go on and i know it may seem dark now but when the sun shines it will be even brighter
2006-10-16 12:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well believe me you shouldn't be jealous about anybody because someday their life will change too.well having a boyfriend , enjoy your time right now. the only thing that we need a boyfriend for is for them to keep on reminding us that we are special and yeah. About family well yeah i do get along with my family sometimes but let me tell you there just family issues.
2006-10-16 12:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by mexicanchick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes from noticing how lucky others are. Spend a little more time or yourself and find a way to get to know yourself and your talents. It's a lot easier to see another person's talents and what makes them special than your own.
2006-10-16 12:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try getting tighter with your family and also if you don't want to talk to your friend about it tell her. If she dosen't understand then she may not be the best of friends sometimes that happens when you least expect it you outgrow a friend or a friend outgrows you its happened to me and it is not a pleasant experience.
2006-10-16 12:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by panda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is the key. I had a friend with your problem. She was not patient end ended up pregnant, married to a man who cannot support her and all 3 are living with her parents. Patience sweety patience.
2006-10-16 12:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋