i am trying to make a decision on what to do with this terrible mess i am in i will exp a little i am separated due to the prblms im going to share with you my babys daddy has came back into my life after 2 years my baby is 3 he wants to be a part of her life and mine we are involved from time to time and i still do have feelings for him but he wants me to move in with him i am married to someone else who is good to my daughter and he has raised her over the past 2 years but at this time due to the situation i have moved out and live alone with her i must make a decision based on what is best for her and maybe not for me i feel that my husband will love her as his own but i feel i must give this other man a chance and i kinda want to but still sooo unsure of what is best they are 2 diff ment in nature one is controling the other not (my husband) one i have had problems with in the past and the other not the prblem is my daughter loves them both and i think i do too so what am i to do
2006-10-16 12:04:51 · 5 answers · asked by UNSURE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you moved out from your husband I would say you don't really have much feelings for him or you wouldn't have had an issue to leave him. He has been the supporting one for you and your child the last three years and you have apparently been alright with it up to now. Your husband must be really hurt over your decision to move out. There would be no question in my mind as to who I would be with. I would be with the husband.. after all what has the child's father done up to this time? It's your life, but apparently you don't really love your husband afterall.
2006-10-16 12:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth did you marry someone that you didn't love? This man deserves better than you. Leave him and go to the looser. After all he is such a good person that he will date a married woman. You are playing games. The husband deserves a wife who will be true and faithful to him. The looser apparently deserves you. Even though he didn't want you back then. You will pay in the long run.
2006-10-16 19:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is really a hard situation but i think you tend to your child"s father somehow,you say she loves your husband but she is a child did you think she will love him the same way when she grow up? and for him he loves a child who does not love a child?
but when she grow up and begin to make the teens trouble will he take care of her and feel responsible for her as a father or as a stepfather? of course ther is difference.
on other hand about you do you think your relationship to the first man will be different from the past or you will lose the both. you are the only person can judje due to you past experience with him or please explain more details about old history of your live with him.other advise what do your family or friends who know the whole think say.if your parents exist there opinion will be very important they always see what we can not see,hope you will make the right deciegn.
2006-10-16 19:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by a_a_a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer.
Do what you know you have to do.
Whats best for your child is most usually whats best for you as well. Stay alone for awhile. Get yourself in a posistion of strength and confidence in yourself. The rest will come in due time.
There is no time limit.
2006-10-16 19:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with ur gut
who do u love most
2006-10-16 20:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋