I have many issued with my bf that lead us to disrespect each other and not trust each other anymore. I have trouble letting him go.. when i know it might be the best thing to do..but i cant give up i guess i do like him. What should i do? he seems to put his friends 1st now..and he tends to wana have many female friends now? should i try to make things work or give up?
2006-10-16 11:54:48 · 15 answers · asked by CALI GIRL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give up. dont waste your time. its not worth it. if he wants everything to work, he should exert effort and should let you see that he wants things to work. if there's no effort things will not work. especially if there's no respect, it will just get worse.
2006-10-16 11:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like what you two need is a time out, maybe you have both become too stressed out by the relationship that it lead to all this issues you mentioned!, just make sure that when you ask talk to him about the time off you leave your feelings straight!, That you don't want to lose him because you really like him but that maybe what you need is a little time to breath!;)
2006-10-16 19:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Delilah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow, you might just need a little of a break from each. That happened with my bf and we took a break from each other, now we are really good friends again. Give it time!
2006-10-16 18:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far, it looks like you haven't tried talking to him and asking him why he seems to put his friends first. Let him know that you love him but you don't know what you should do. Sometimes it helps to tell the person you are having problems with what you think and the fact that you don't know what to do about it. Who knows, maybe he will give you his perspective and it will all work out.
2006-10-16 18:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you lose respect it's very hard to earn it again. So, my advice is for you to let him go, try seeing other people and let things cool down a little bit. Then if time passes by and you still love him (after not seeing him) then try again to make it work.
2006-10-16 18:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by hollygirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like and love are 2 different things. It doesn't sound like there is much of a connection between you two. I would not put any more effort into this relationship at this point.
2006-10-16 18:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hwy2?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like it's already over...and you are just hanging on because you don't know what else to do. If there's no mutual trust or respect, there's not much of a framework there for a good relationship. What is there for you to give up if you moved on? What is there for you if you continue to hang on?
2006-10-16 19:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Nani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the same motto I do regarding food. " IF IN DOUBT ,THROW IT OUT" !!!!
If he's treating you badly now and choosing his friends over you then you are not his number 1 priority and in a relationship that is what you need to be to each other.
2006-10-16 19:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by lovnlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, the best thing to do is to let him go. there is no point of giving him a chance if he let his friends be the priority over you. go out there and enjoy being single again.
2006-10-16 18:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other fish in the sea. I don't know how old you are , but unless you're in your late 40's+ and are worried that you'll never find someone else, you should just Move On.
2006-10-16 18:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋