i am married and me and my husband have talked about it and he has kinda okayed for me to sleep with other men as long as they know who the "man" is. so yeah i get excited for my husband but latley i have been getting excited over other men. is that okay? should i tell him?
2006-10-16 11:49:26 · 30 answers · asked by mrsmonkey829 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does "kinda okayed" mean? Seems a bit odd. For me, I wouldn't accept it and think you should focus on your marriage and not other men.
2006-10-16 11:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becareful- You are dancing with danger when you say your husband says it's okay. He may not be telling you how he really feels as he thinks it may never really happen.
It is normal for a man or woman to lust over others however when you cross the line you never know where the road may leave and the starts the problems, ever here the song fooled around and fell in love or whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
Remember when he gives you permission you are giving him permission to do the same- so amke sure you both can tolerate crossing over the line.
If you love your husband think twice really hard
2006-10-16 18:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't understand these people that want to condemn married people for considering having sex with other people. Married people are human too! We still can lust over other people!
Listen, if your husband is okay with it, and you're okay with him being with other women, then I think it's possible that the experiment could work. It does sound risky though. Most people would freak out. I think that is why most of the people on here freak out when you ask questions like this. Personally, I think they're a bunch of prudes. I would be very curious to hear how your "experiment" turns out.
2006-10-16 21:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about him and another woman?We flirted with this idea and decided once you cross that bridge it is hard to go back.Keep sex between you and your husband,it is a sacred thing and should be treated as such.Now every now and then my wife likes to dress a little trashy and we do get excited by other men flirting and staring at her,but it never goes any further.You got married for a reason,honor that vow.
2006-10-16 19:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're entering some dangerous waters here. You have to be very very careful when you start bringing other people into your sex life. Could you watch him be with another woman? Or for that matter, not watch, but know he's doing it? You have to expect that if he's going to let you do it, that he's going to want to do it too. You can't have your cake and eat it too, I'm sure of that much. Why don't you try doing this as a couple with another couple first, and see if you guys are still ok after that?
2006-10-16 18:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what does that mean the "man"?
it's going to be another "man" inside of you and then he will be the "man"....lol
I know it can be tempting from watching TV and all but you should hold yourself to a higher standard. I don't really see the purpose of getting married if you are just going to sleep around.
but all in all, i have to agree with what the other lady wrote. You would be stupid if you think your marriage will be ok after you sleep around.
2006-10-16 19:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ant O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read the answers above, but there's no mention of the term "Open Marriage". Google this and do some research. For many couples, this opens a big exciting door. For many others, it's an absolute disaster of jealousy and miscommunication. Keep talking and talk some more. Get some books on the Open Marriage lifestyle. Please do not jump into anything!
2006-10-16 19:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dr.Mr.Ed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
? This is just shameless! A married woman ask her husband if she can have sex with other men? what a bunch of disgraceful flith. You ARE married! when you desire another man & sleep with another man, you are cheating & betraying your husband+marriage. where is the RESPECT in all of this for one another?? where is the LOVE for one another??
question: I personally believe the people you hang out with has alot to do with this sinful act.
2006-10-16 19:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Chameleon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is "kinda" okay with you sleeping around, he's not much of a husband and you are certainly no kind of wife. You're confusing committment with sex and your life's on a snowball headed for hell!
2006-10-16 18:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has kinda okayed for me to sleep with other men? as long as they know who the 'man'. is. Which planet did you guys drop from again?
So do you have a special "cookie" for 'the man' and another for the rest?
2006-10-16 19:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋