My boyfriend,we just started going out a little while ago and we don't know each other to well but he's like punkish and all..he just said this :::: "you obviously dont condone it but self-harm in some forms is 'alright' with you right?" ..what exactly does he mean by that?? i mean i know he used to cut himself and all but he told me he's over that its his past....What does he mean? I don't understand it?
im talking to him on msn and he just said "a needle(like...for obtaining blood samples)but only the bottom and the needle part." whats that mean?? What is he talking about? I dont get it?
2006-10-16 11:40:12 · 14 answers · asked by Kelsey's Mommy<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Self harm, especially cutting, is a major sign of depression. If your bf is talking so much about it ,he's not crazy,just depressed most likely.Something's troubling him badly and he doesn't know what to do about it. It's frustrating him so much that he's taking it out on his on person--self-harm.He needs professional help. In a way he's asking you to help him.To help him you have to be honest. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel about what he's doing. Encourage him to see a psychiatrist.
2006-10-16 11:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by ZEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means that he feels compelled to hurt himself, whether by cutting himself with a knife or razor or stabbing himself with needles. It's very sad how many teens do this, but mnay people are aware of it. It's a sign of low self-esteem, of self-hatred, of despair. He's apparently convinced himself that it is okay for him to do this, but it's very unhealthy and this sort of behavior puts him at high risk for suicide. It doesn't mean he's a bad person... just very sad and in need of help.
Please please please talk to an adult about this. A counselor or dean at your school would be the most appropriate (a parent might overreact or lay blame instead of trying to help effectively, but use your best judgement). They have the ability and resources to help him.
If he gets mad at you, tell him that you care about him and are worried about him, and that you only tried to help him. I know you don't want to "snitch" on him, but he's in danger and you can help him by getting him to talk to the right adults.
good luck!
2006-10-16 11:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selfhharm is a form of an emotional behavioral disorder. There are much deeper issues than just cutting. I would re-evaluate your situation to see if this is really the type of person you want a relationship with. He needs to work on his behaviors before he is ready to get into a healthy relationship.
2006-10-16 11:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hwy2?? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he still self harms himself and he needs professional help I would either tell a trusted family member so you can get your boyfriend the help that he needs
2006-10-16 11:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can do better than this! This guy is a cutter,and could very well begin cutting on you!
You want someone with knife scars all over his body. the guy needs psychological help before he is usable as a bf.
2006-10-16 11:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to give you a short and sweet advice....
RUN as fast and as far away as u can, for your dear life !!!
This guy is not for a normal person and the emotional and financial trauma you will undergoe trying to reform him, if that is at all possible, is NOT worth it.
2006-10-17 02:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Explore_Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still into self mutilation...and one doesn't get "over" that without professional help. If he is a "cutter" he will continue to self mutilate until he addresses those inner issues which make him behave that way...Soon he will be trying to talk you into doing it too...DON"T!!!
Get out now, while you still can.
2006-10-16 11:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea what he is talking about, but i would get away from this guy far and fast. do you really want to go out with a guy that hurts himself!? he needs therapy, not a girlfriend.
2006-10-16 11:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he's a freak and you need to leave him ... anyone who "self harms" ... is not mentally stable ... he needs help, plus if he's doing this to himself he could and will contract a disease (curable or uncurable) ... your right to be scared but you need to be scared enough to end it. Talk to someone professionally about his actions and you'll see that he needs real help
2006-10-16 11:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes asking you if its ok to do self harm to himself in some ways
2006-10-16 11:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dulceata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋