Im only 24, im successful, educated, attractive...moving to one of the greatest cities in the world...yet i feel so depressed...i dont even feel like taking care of myself and i attract the sorriest men ever...how can i remedy this? How can i feel happy again and full of hope? I was married 4 years and he left me to go back to his country and then i was raped and in a series of bad relationships where they either left and stopped talking to me or were too clingy...sorry for all the personal details but im really upset.
2006-10-16 11:36:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is completely understandable that you are upset and depressed, you have had way too much bad stuff in your life in the past year. I strongly recommend you visit your doctor, or a therapist. You probably need to go on an antidepressant, and therapy would be a great plus. Good luck, and know that life does get better.
2006-10-16 11:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really, really hard to move forward when you are stuck in the mode that you are in. You need to start focusing on someone else or something that is a positive. Can you volunteer in a hospital or a community venture after work? Serving others is such a great outlet, makes you feel like you have value, and on top of it you really are helping others. When we 'review' our lives over and over and over again, we are just spinning our wheels and can't get going.
Sounds like you are taking some action. This is a positive. There IS hope, just as the sun rises every morning, there is someone good waiting for you. Don't rush into anything. Take time to heal, and helping others might just do the trick.
Where do you go to meet these 'sorry' people? Be picky..you are worth it. Make a list and don't settle. If you act 'pitiful' you will draw men around you that seek vunerable women, and they (the women) become victims--again and again. Don't do that.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 11:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing to do while on this planet is to remember what a wonderful gift life is. It is easy to get caught in the trapings and emotions that bring our spirit down. Try waking up everyday remembering it's a new day and you have everything to gain and nothing to lose except your past. The past is the past and you can't change the damage that has been done , but because of the past you are smarter wiser and no where to go but forward.
Take a bite out of the apple of life and taste it savour it and enjoy it as you ahve so much to live for. You have a fresh start in a new city and the love of god standing behind you. You can do no wrong and true love will find you. Dig deep in your heart and soul and strive to be a better person that will make it a habit of enjoying life. meditate and love and love will come to you!!
Wake up and smell the roses and don't let life pass you by,
2006-10-16 11:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some counseling would help you. If it's not offered as a health care benefit at your job, check your phone book for social service agencies. Some provide counseling on a sliding-scale fee and some deal specifically with rape survivors. There are also divorce support groups offered through churches. Check your local newspaper. In the "life" or "local" sections, many churches and agencies list counseling or groups that they offer. Call the psychiatric department of your local university or hospital. They may know where you can get free help or help on a sliding-scale fee, and they may know of support groups for rape survivors and divorced women.
You have MANY good years ahead of you and are worthy of finding someone who will appreciate your education and success. Try and take one or two small steps each day toward feeling better. You may need medication on a temporary basis, but only a doctor can make that decision. If you have a general physician, ask him for a referral to a psychiatrist. GP's usually don't like to prescribe psychiatric medication even though they can. Just think of it as a band-aid till you get your life rolling again. Good luck.
2006-10-16 11:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be depressed also because of a bad relationship and a series of things that happened in my life. The only advice I can give you is to start thinking about the positive things. You need to make yourself the priority. Go out with friends or spend time with family. Try to be with people almost constantly. Being alone lets feelings and emotions come to the forefront of your mind. It doesn't happen overnight, but it will happen. Maybe medication will help, but I didn't try that. I didn't want to become dependant on it. Buy yourself something nice and tell yourself you deserve it. Trust me, I know how you feel and it WILL get better.
2006-10-16 12:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Christine F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its depression my friend. You seem very strong and have a damn good will to keep on getting on.
I can't explain why bad things happen to us, but I think a good way to get out of this is to work on your inner self, your mind, how you feel about you. Without doing this, there is nothing external that can make your misery go.
At your age, I think there is so much to look forward to. Depression is harder to deal with when you are 40+ because its easier to giveup.
So keep your head up. I am sorry.
2006-10-16 11:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im sorry about what has happen they say what ever dont kill you makes you stronger i as well was married and had a child and she just left she says i was not good enough for her because i could not give her bling bling so im hurt and she wont allow me to even see or talk to are child and its depressed but i give it to god because he has it in his hands and what you do is just be you go out alone or with a girl friend toa movie and when you come home just relax and pray and give it to god let him take care of it because if you try and walk around and you feel its your fault then you only make it worse so i hope you feel better and if you want to talk to some one about anything just e-mail me at david_black39@yahoo.com ok take care peace
2006-10-16 11:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats is alot of drama maybe you should take a vacation or something
well you answered your own question about relationships u feel like you are going to stop taking care of your self. maybe you should try doing the exact opposite you know go out get a hair cut nice make up and hang out with your gurlfriends and well yah you know PARTY treat your self to a nice day it always makes my self feel better
2006-10-16 11:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by psychobunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor. Depression takes over your life, and it doesn't really matter what *really* goes on, you just see everything through this veil. There are treatments, from medication to therapy tp meditation, see a medical professional and try to work out a combination that works for you.
2006-10-16 11:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy on relationships for a while you may be looking in the wrong places for guys and all the freaks go where you've been going try something more upper class to look for dates ie rich businessmen ivy league graduates people that hang out at star bucks and imported clothing line places
2006-10-16 11:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by BlueCherubi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋