My fiance and I are having to deal with a long distance relationship but I send him pictures and film of myself naked so that we can still have some sort of sex life but when I visited this weekend I found pictures on his computer of other women.
Is it just something all men do or is it something I should be seriously worried about?
I've taken him back but I haven't managed to forgive him yet and I feel as though I can't trust him. I do still love him though so I have no idea how to deal with this.
2006-10-16 10:36:27 · 32 answers · asked by Hannah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Long distance relatiionships are always tricky. How long do you know him? How long have you been doing this? How often do you see him?
I think guys 'look' until the day they die. However, looking is different that 'doing' or going to a different level. I say that you have to be together, give each other time to see if you are both really committed to this relationship before you worry. How do you know he isn't 'seeing' other women--or the women whose photos are on his screen? He has to build your trust, but on the other hand, you can't expect him to be a monk. Talk, really talk with him and find out where his head (the big one) is....that will tell you volumes and also might lead you to where his 'little' head is also. Good luck.
2006-10-16 10:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% with what's been said by a few others. If it's just porn it's no big deal at all. If, however, these are women taking pictures of themselves and sending them to him like you've done, then it's time to worry. If the latter is the case, I would say that he seems untrustworthy and you should consider moving on. The only way a long distance relationship can work out at all is if both parties trust each other and work to make sure that the other feels secure.
2006-10-16 17:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Little Girl Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there.... dump him, if you aren't okay with it now, you never will be and just because you close the distance doesn't mean he will stop looking. The next thing that will happen is you will start wondering if he knows any of these women, after all he knows you... Some will disagree with me but this is my opinion. It is a form of cheating and a sign that he lacks self control, which means if he is weak in this area what other areas is he weak in when it comes to women. After 5 years of marriage, 7 years together plus one more long distance, 2 children and 1 more on the way, im finally learning that it doesn't get better, it gets worse. It eats at you, the trust thing is always an issue...and love doesn't always make it worth it all. Yes, true love at that. Don't wait until you have invested even more in this man to decide you are worth more than that, leave now before it gets even more complicated. (One of the reasons I went through with the wedding, I was afraid of disappointing my family, especially after they spent so much money on the wedding. My mom knows im going to leave him and the whole story behind it, she said she would have let go of the money in order for me to be happy).
Please seriously think it through and what you are willing to put up with and take your self worth in to consideration and ask if he is respecting your relationship.
Good Luck
2006-10-17 05:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ever send pictures of yourself in compromising situations. They always seem to find their way on the Internet or with other people.
Many men have a naked woman or two on their computers, but there is a healthy limit to this. If he is surfing the net constantly for naked women, then it's very unhealthy.
Are the pictures of people he knows or just pics of strangers? If it's girls he knows then that would be wrong of him.
2006-10-16 10:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by phoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All guys look at pictures of women naked ... its completely normal. Can't say I blame. A long distance relationship is tough. Just be glad he did not fool around behind your back.
2006-10-16 10:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. You can't let ppl tell you how to feel. If you don't like it, talk to him. You'll have to accept this if you're going to be with this guy. You can't go around changing ppl or they'll resent you. Most men do it. Some ppl do it as a couple. Just be open and honest. He'll change or he won't. You have to come to terms with what you can live with.
2006-10-16 10:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem with this. Personally I wouldn't care less. Nor would I worry if he talked to other women on-line - but I might pretend to be another woman on-line to him for a laugh. Seriously it is just what men and women do. Don't you look at men?
2006-10-16 10:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, I'd say every bloke who has a computer looks at naked woman. I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's just a bloke thing.
2006-10-16 10:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Steven S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal and you need to be thankful that he is only looking at pictures on the net instead of looking at the real thing!
2006-10-16 10:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by Christy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a guy thing. When we become lonely to ourselves. It developes to nervousness without a woman. So, we figure things out to handle it. For me, I am not that sick. I have morals and an gentleman manners.
2006-10-16 10:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Quentin Grzyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋