Do i continue loving my husband?

Question

I had married my husband when i was young.It was love marriage.His was third and mine first.He was just recovering from his prev Divorce and i appeared to be a fresh thing in his life.First 2 yrs were very good.We had a baby also.After that we moved in with his parents and things started going bad.He started being physical.In the mean time my teenage affair got opened up to him.In our initial courting days i never told him as i was scared of losing him,thogh i had tried telling him but at that time he told me it doesnt matter to him.After he got to know,i told him everything in detail and left the decision for him to decide upon the marriage.He decided to continue with the marriage but gradually his behaviour got bad.He became very physical.At the same time took me on costly vaccations.He also had difficult times at his work.I had been faithful to him in our 8 yrs of marriage.Other than his inbetween temparamental behaviour he sounds good to me.During his bad behaviour he calls me ch

he calls me cheat.He also has been without a job becoz of his own doing.In the mean time i got a job and that becoz he asked me to take it up as he felt it would stop my fights with his mom.After i took up the job he would fite with me all the time.I met a coomon friend of ours who also happened to witness our previous fightes and had bailed me out from the problems.We got around talking and today we are in love with each other.He also is married and says he has problems in his marriage but not like mine.In the eman time 3 months bak my husband asked me to leave the house all of a sudden.He has done this 2 yrs bak also.At that time also i went rejoined with him on my own,though my parents were against it.He has this habit of disconnecting with me during fites.I have been away from my husband and my child whose custody my husband has taken by playing dirty tricks ,for 3 months.I have been talking to this friend of mine for last 6 months.We just share everything between us on phones.

My friend says he loves me and we just talk every day to each other.We are in love thats for sure.But at the same time i dont know my status of marriage.I am not legally separated.My husband made me leave the house and till i was living with him i was faithful to him.But after he did this to me ,which he has done before also,i became emotionally close to my friend.Di i continue loving him.My husband hasnt called me up or kept any contact for last three months.He doesnt even let me talk to my child.I really dont know what is in his mind.My friend talks to me everyday and i feel we are soulmates.Only thing i am not able to decide is that shld take the plunge in loving him or should try to work on my marriage.Though i have no hopes that my husband will improve.I dont love him anymore as he has exploited my feelings all the time and manipulated my love for himself.He suffocates me all the time.H e likes to feel that he is always right.On top of that he becomes physical.

Answer 1

I don't know. Do you love him? When you say he's physical I think you are saying he's pushing you around or hitting you...GIRL, if he's hitting you or being physically abusive to you I don't care how many costly vacations he takes you on your life AND your dignity is priceless. Get rid of him if he's abusive. In my opinion, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS! Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 2

Jennifer, You can love him, but a mistake that was made as a teenager isn't worth what sounds like physical and emotional abuse. Tell him to join an anger management group to control his temper,or tell him to get out. You don't deserve to be treated like that.

Answer 3

There's a reason he's had 3 marriages and 2 have failed. You should never stick around for any type of abuse, ever.

Answer 4

Ditch him. He gets physical and then buys you expensive trips...Get a life pal. You have a child get them out and yourself sounds like an *** to me.

Answer 5

3rd marriage is more likely to fail than #2, thats what DR.PHIL said,

Answer 6

well if u still tink about him than u probably still love him cuz there is nothing like ur 1st true love

Answer 7

work on it and it will be better get some counseling for couples and figure out how to communicate better

Answer 8

yes continue